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Pakistani singles take matters into their own hands at in-person matchmaking events

Pakistani singles take matters into their own hands at in-person matchmaking events

Events are being organised to help potential marriage partners meet in Lahore, sometimes under the watchful eyes of chaperones.
Updated 28 Aug, 2024

Dozens of young singles gathered this week to meet potential marriage partners in Lahore, the first attempt by a UK-based matrimonial app to help people find spouses in person in Pakistan.

Typically, marriages in Pakistan are arranged by parents who look for suitable matches for their children from within their communities or the extended family. Dating apps are generally stigmatised and gender segregation socially and at work remains common in the country of 240 million people.

The Lahore event was organised by Muzz, formerly Muzzmatch, which says its app is based on Islamic etiquette. The app is restricted to Muslim users, and, in a nod to traditional values, gives the option of blurring pictures except for specific matches and allows for chaperones to oversee meetings.

Other smaller events are also emerging in the country to challenge traditional matchmaking norms.

Despite criticism online in the past for the app, the Muzz event was attended by about 100 people.

Aimen, a 31-year-old woman who did not want to be further identified, said she used the app on the recommendation of her US-based brother. “I used the app for two weeks, but then I saw an ad for this event and thought, why not meet people in person?” she told Reuters.

She said that her mother would have accompanied her as a chaperone but couldn’t attend because of ill-health.

Muzz, launched in 2015 in the Britain, which also has a sizeable Muslim population, has over 1.5 million users in Pakistan, its second-largest market after Morocco.

Moaz, a 27-year-old man, said he has been using Muzz for a year and that he was hopeful of finding a wife through the app. “I do get matches, but they have different priorities,” he said, adding that girls on the app expect him to involve his parents from the beginning.

“That is not (immediately) possible,” he said, stressing the need of getting to know someone before taking the next big step.

Annie’s Matchmaking Party, another Lahore event last week, used an algorithm to match 20 young professionals after a selection process and invited them to the meet. Noor ul Ain Choudhary, the 30-year-old organiser, faced criticism online that her event promoted a “hookup culture”. She countered that it aimed to provide a safe space for singles to meet and connect.

“In Pakistan, we’ve had two options: biased arranged marriages or time-consuming dating apps with no guarantees. Safety during meetings is also a concern,” she said.

Abdullah Ahmed, 22, was bullish about in person events and said he was convinced he may have found his perfect match at the Muzz gathering. “The highlight was meeting an amazing girl,” he said, beaming with excitement, adding that they instantly clicked and swapped social media handles.

“We’re both Marvel fans! We’re already planning to catch the new Deadpool & Wolverine together,” he said.

Comments

M. Emad Aug 24, 2024 02:10pm
Marriage is a social institution.
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Taj Ahmad Aug 24, 2024 02:28pm
How to get married…? it’s everyone choice and parents should help to their children’s as much as possible. Good luck for both.
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Dr. Salaria Amir Ahmed Aug 24, 2024 02:36pm
Great Initiative by Muzz, these young, ambitious, independent people should go find their soulmates like I did. Goodluck!
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Mujahid Hussain Aug 24, 2024 02:40pm
I think it is a good initiative to find a spouse in a convenient way. When both parties understand each other their parents take part and solemnize the marriage in an Islamic or as per other religions way. Computer application will help them to choose the right partner whose traits match each other.
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Zara Aug 24, 2024 02:58pm
Is it ever gonna happen in Islamabad
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Rehan Ullah Aug 24, 2024 03:05pm
Happening date?
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Adnan Mazher Khan Aug 24, 2024 03:11pm
Shameful event to say the least. We must not encourage and promote such events. It may ruin lives of many young girls.
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Muneer Ahmed Memon Aug 24, 2024 03:25pm
Good initiative but focused on a specific segment of society wherein less values. Risk is equally there.
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M. Saeed Aug 24, 2024 03:40pm
Appearances are deceptive and a life-long match is not successful in a few minutes of artificiAl association. Online match depends entirely on the honesty of inputs to get results, accordingly.
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Gnor Aug 24, 2024 03:54pm
theyll soon realize they didnt have the experience and wisdom to find a good match. if u cannt find a match in "routine" life, an app cant help much. there might be smthng lacking
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haris Aug 24, 2024 03:59pm
Just wait for PTA firewall
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Ahmed Aug 24, 2024 04:04pm
As long as the parents are involved and know what is going on then this is fine. They should just talk to each other. Playing games and watching movies should not be done. Otherwise it's a waste of time and should be discouraged.
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Asma Abbasi Aug 24, 2024 04:10pm
Asa my neice is looking out to get settled. Could you please give a few details about this. Thanks Asma Abbasi
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Fast comment Aug 24, 2024 04:30pm
The pros & cons of Digital era. Yes now marriages are done after direct communication through internet. Still if parents/ guardians if taken into confidence is better. The young generation often made decisions in hurry , and they got fed up soon. That should be kept in mind. The background check of both should be done before finalizing marriages.
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Kamran Shah Aug 24, 2024 04:51pm
When relatives and society don't pay attention to the dire need of wedlock of their young ones, aspirants must take affairs in their hands. Good luck for your dream-partner.
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Zubair Ahmed Chandio Aug 24, 2024 05:22pm
While the promotion of matrimonial connections may generally be viewed as a positive initiative, the approach taken by Muzz warrants reconsideration. Although the app originates from the United Kingdom, its operations in Pakistan present challenges, particularly given the app's feature that allows users to identify themselves based on sectarian affiliations, including the classification of Ahmadis as Muslims. While this identification may be acceptable in the United Kingdom, it poses significant issues within the Pakistani context. The recent Muzz event in Lahore, therefore, has the potential to provoke considerable backlash due to the prevailing religious and sectarian sensitivities in the region.
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Dr ibrahim Aug 24, 2024 06:03pm
Marriages are made in heaven and performed on earth.
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Guest Aug 24, 2024 06:19pm
The boys who do not want to involve parents from the start are red flags. You like the profile, do one meeting in person and decide to move forward or not. If yes then involve parents. Girls are right in saying that. If you do not involve parents you are just a time pass.
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Numan Ali Aug 24, 2024 06:39pm
I want marriage, am paid money many matchmaker but not responding me , some buddy help me...
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Mujaddid Aug 24, 2024 07:48pm
New way of finding life partner is becoming easy and advanced day by day.
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Rizwan Ali Aug 24, 2024 08:07pm
First men there have to put up with women's agendas and feminist messages. Spare me the horror.
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Dr. Salaria Amir Ahmed Aug 24, 2024 08:10pm
The clown is back. Yes that's me!
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Bilal Aug 24, 2024 08:22pm
It always starts with something small and inconsequential. There is no need to hold entire events for this sole purpose. Social media, existing matchmaking apps, and searching by parents is sufficient. They can meet in private after that. Quite ironic that the organiser negated the impression of a hookup culture yet the last sentence above shows that it is exactly that. This should be openly discouraged.
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Mailk Awan Aug 24, 2024 10:12pm
One look at the dresses and you'll understand the type of gathering.
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Mahwish khan Aug 24, 2024 10:29pm
Excellent Job my muzz, singles are in dire need to safe and friendly venues to meet and interact.
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FAZ Aug 25, 2024 12:20am
I see a specific elite segment of society which already loves to "experiment" as they have all the time and money. Not so special news.
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Asad Aug 25, 2024 12:25am
Good effort in this fast moving world
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Kashif Ali Aug 25, 2024 12:45am
Such events should also be happening about 40+ aged people who might need more social inclusion and courage to settle down in the life.
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Hosh M Aug 25, 2024 01:18am
This imported event will relegate the position of parents in our society
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Imtiaz Hussain Aug 25, 2024 04:06am
Very encouraging idea this way at least girls and boys meet before making their life decisions keep it up to help and improve social fabric of Pakistani nation
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Mehboob Alam Khalil Aug 25, 2024 05:42am
The idea is ridiculous. It should be shut all at once. It's seriously penetrating the very cultural roots and fabrics adversely. The site and people paddling this need to be brought to book.
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Captain Aug 25, 2024 06:29am
We have an App Dil Ka Rishta in Pakistan
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Say No to Dynasty politics Aug 25, 2024 07:36am
Stop being so narrow minded, these girls and boys are having a hard time getting married, everyone should encourage this decent way of meeting for marriage purposes. Don't give a negative opinion everything.
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Mansoor Ali Aug 25, 2024 07:50am
This is absurd, 80% of the Pakistani youth have already been using this MUZZ app to become a source to fulfill their se*ual needs only rather than for the actual purpose. Now providing these platforms will encourage them and create a sense of legitimacy to use them solely for dating. If it continues, Pakistani society will face harsh repercussions. I hope the authorities and people understand that this is not our culture.
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Farhat Aug 25, 2024 08:42am
How to be the member of this
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Zulfiqar Mir Aug 25, 2024 09:16am
amazing how colonialism seeps into the slaves.
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Sami Ali Aug 25, 2024 10:30am
This will only increase pre marital affairs in our society. Such things may work in west but it is not a good solution for us.
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Talha Aug 25, 2024 10:32am
Destroying the social fabric of our country and nobody to defend it.
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Adnan Zafar Aug 25, 2024 10:35am
Without parental guidance, this meetup can go wrong directions. It could easily destroy the very idea, this meetup has been setup: to arrange a family system for both individuals. Parental guidance and support is must.
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Dr Aamir Ahmad Aug 25, 2024 12:41pm
Preach population control for the poor meanwhile elite finding new ways to procreate.
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Dr Aamir Ahmad Aug 25, 2024 12:43pm
Elites with their silly games while poor perish.
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Alam Aug 25, 2024 01:21pm
Don't destroy our beautiful culture of arranged marriages from our parents, which are finalised by the consent of both boys and girls. The approach you mentioned will not bring you any benefits. Is the destruction of our social setup and roots are planned? Your parents are the only ones who can be your well-wishers in the world.
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Dr. Salaria, Aamir Ahmad Aug 25, 2024 05:41pm
Tip of the iceberg.
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algoritmi Aug 25, 2024 05:55pm
Nothing wrong in the set up but sub-continent men generally come to these events for something else.
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Haris Aug 25, 2024 08:23pm
Nice initiative. These events routinely take place in major mosques in the USA, UK, and Canada, benefiting many people. Local mosques in Pakistan should consider organizing similar events.
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Syed zafar ali Aug 26, 2024 06:38am
I ALSO WANT TO BE PART OF THIS EVENT , I AM FROM KARACHI , IN FUTURE THIS EVENT ORGANIZED IN KARACHI , SHARE DETAILS WITH ME , # HOPE FOR THE BEST.
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BuSaif Aug 26, 2024 11:29am
What a waste, nothing new !
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