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Ushna Shah says we should stop sexualising women's bodies and we agree with her

Ushna Shah says we should stop sexualising women's bodies and we agree with her

Let women wear what they want without having to be judged by random men on the internet!
29 May, 2021

What makes clothes appropriate or inappropriate on different body types? Ushna Shah believes it has everything to do with the sexualisation of women.

The actor shared a video from popular TikTok user Tizzyent in which he reacts to a man asking whether a woman's clothes are appropriate. The woman in question is a teacher who is fully covered in jeans and a t-shirt.

Tizzyent responds to the man's asinine question and asks what he means by "is this appropriate for school?"

"Pants? A top that covers everything? That's the issue?" he asks. "Because she has a shape, it's a problem for you? You know God damn well if she was built like Sponge Bob Squarepants no one would have given two sh*ts and no would have taken the picture," he said.

He turned the tables on the man and highlighted how someone took this woman's picture without her consent. "How about we talk about the fact that this woman is trying to educate children and do her job and she has some fool sexualising her? How about we normalise not sexualising a woman for having attributes that we desire? How about that?" he asked.

Shah reposted his video and said if he came to Pakistan, "his head would implode from the sexualisation of women" and she's not wrong. She urged most men to listen to him.

"When my well-endowed female friends wear fitted t-shirts, it’s especially inappropriate. When women with curvy behinds wear fitted jeans it’s especially inappropriate. When my friends with beautiful arms wear sleeveless it’s especially inappropriate," she wrote.

"It isn’t the clothes. It’s the sexualisation of our bodies. If an attribute is attractive to them, it’s inappropriate because the can’t control themselves."

This reminded us of a terrible picture that keeps circulating on the internet about ants and lollipops — you probably know of it. The idea is apparently that men are insects and will swarm the lollipop (woman) if it is uncovered. A truly flattering comparison for everyone involved.

Both Shah and Tizzyent have a point. Our perception of whether clothes are "appropriate" is often coloured by the body wearing those clothes. To make it clear, people rarely have control over what their bodies look like so to judge someone's level of "appropriateness" based on their body doesn't even make sense.

What Shah and Tizzyent are both saying is that often, women are viewed through a lens of attractiveness. Clothes are appropriate or inappropriate depending on how attracted you are to them. We're sexualising women and their bodies whether they're covered up or not, which means men like the one who posted the initial video could find fault in a woman wearing jeans and t-shirt or even someone wearing a hijab because they're looking at these women solely as sexual beings.

How about we leave women alone and let them wear what they want without sexualising every aspect of their being? Let women wear what they want without worrying about random men taking pictures of them and then posting that on the internet to "discuss" how appropriate their clothes are.

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Funny man May 29, 2021 12:55pm
I'd love to hear her comments when a man wears clothes that highlights his manhood very clearly. Is he entitled to this also or it's his business only?
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WhatIsTrue May 29, 2021 01:07pm
I am a man I live in the West This is NOT an issue of the east only..it Worldwide. When anything is out of the norm, everyone will notice.. That's human nature
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The Doctor May 29, 2021 01:20pm
Yeah let men and women wear what they want. Even if they start roaming streets in underwear and bikini. I mean who in the right sense would live like this. There should be some ground rules for men and women about what to wear and what to not. Kids would be the most who will get affected by this if we go by this concept.
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Khaled May 29, 2021 01:25pm
Fully agree with her, let the men mind their own business.
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Fuzail Z. Ahmad May 29, 2021 01:29pm
Good points, but isn't it true that we should wear comfortable dress for others to get a message about us? Commenting on women's dress is sexualizing, then what would be the comments called when made on men, or boys or kids' dresses? A man having a big belly shouldn't wear a tight T shirt. Taking pics of a teacher without her consent is wrong, but teachers of all genders must dress appropriately. I hope I am understood.
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Sanity 101 May 29, 2021 01:30pm
unfortunately, she is a woman, and does not understand that a man can not suppress his natural desires for a woman.
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Fastrack May 29, 2021 01:41pm
WE sexualize the female bodies? It takes two- the eager buyer, and the greedy or willing or compelled seller. IMO, the buyers are more powerful and deserve more of the blame.
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M. Saeed May 29, 2021 01:43pm
It is not that, "We're sexualising women and their bodies", but the historic fact is the other way round. Women themselves thought of and decided sexualising their bodies in their bid, as very specifically recorded in the "History of human Civilization", to conquer the minds of men and got rid from their life in chains, like animals.
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AJ May 29, 2021 01:55pm
Totally agree with the 'sexualization of women', but it is not consistent with 'women can wear what they want' ideology in our culture. West has a 'lassez-faire' approach to these things because they don't place much importance to modesty (for both men and women) or sanctity of family and marriage. Superimposing western culture on the rest of the world is a form of appropriation which should not be accepted at face value.
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Abrar May 29, 2021 02:57pm
Actors both male and female sexualize their bodies for money, so it's okay for them to do, but when some one comments on that then he or she is judgemental.
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Hamed May 29, 2021 03:18pm
If a delicious meal is presented, everybody will react. If women present themselves as an erotic object, as in the west, people will look at them accordingly.
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Sameer Waheed May 29, 2021 03:19pm
I am sorry. By exposing the attractive parts like the arms or a tight fitting pant to highlight the figure, are man sexualizing the female body or the females trying to sexualize their body?
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Ibrahim May 29, 2021 03:37pm
Agreed , the masculinity of men should be checked as well - fair?
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Chrís Dăn May 29, 2021 03:54pm
Hey lady- no one cares in the continent of Europe at least. Do not waste your time on such frivolous stuff.
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Chrís Dăn May 29, 2021 04:00pm
@AJ ,your 2nd para implies a delusional& ill- informed approach for western culture. Irrelevent with article too. Western specifically European continentś culture in family values has its big plus such as 50% property/assets share to wife in case of divorce which provides social& financial protection to women- equal property share to women- honesty,tax payments as culture,etc. Yu better believe in co-existence instead of an ignorant bitternesd. And yes,we do nt have honor killings .
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Shahzad Arif May 29, 2021 04:14pm
I don't agree with Ushna entirely. Every society in this world has some rules for both men and women. These rules wary from one nation to another but as far as I know every nation on earth has some limitations. How would she feel if men started roaming around topless and in really tight shorts or underwear? I agree we shouldn't judge others but at the same time as far as clothing goes we've some limits.
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Dr. Salaria, Aamir Ahmad/bhaRAT May 29, 2021 04:24pm
Stop this rhetoric. People will do anything for money and Women are people.
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David M May 29, 2021 04:56pm
Men will always sexualize women's body. This is nature. Be careful what you wish for.
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Ahmad May 29, 2021 05:10pm
Appears more projection than any rational thought.. who cares what you look and wear!!
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Waheed UK May 29, 2021 05:26pm
There is no rationale in her views . It is critical to have rules, regulations, values ,and norms in the wider interests of society as whole .it has been established that in order to have peace and cohesion regulating human behaviour is imperative to create boundaries between what is good for the humanity and what can endanger its peaceful coexistence as people cannot do it themselves and failure to do so would create chaos and anarchy. To ignore nature and its impact is to seek trouble and undesirable consequences. It is one thing to build castles in the air and quite another to live in them!
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Imran May 29, 2021 05:38pm
Womens’ bodies and their images are used to sell everything form clothes to cars to furniture to guns and ammo
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LIAQAT ali khan May 29, 2021 06:24pm
Girls are trying to sell , what nerds to be hide
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Farhan Shahid Khan May 29, 2021 06:25pm
Isn't it a Quranic order that women should not wear tight clothes. If women's bodies aren't sexualized than what should be sexualized? Banyan trees?
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Muneer May 29, 2021 07:09pm
Feeling attracted towards female body, feeling lust towards it is also part of men’s nature. Should they not have freedom of expression....? When women are hellbent to expose their figure in public, they become “public figure” and like all other public figure like tv and film celebrities politicians, they should be ready to take whistle and condemnation....
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Just Saying May 29, 2021 07:58pm
The Burqa takes care of all these issues. You can wear whatever you want as long as you cover yourself in Burqa when you go out in public.
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RationalBabu May 29, 2021 08:48pm
@Sameer Waheed Attractive parts like arms? Seriously?
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RationalBabu May 29, 2021 08:52pm
@Just Saying ....and what about the men?
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Zulfiqar May 29, 2021 09:26pm
A large part of being civilized includes being appropriate.
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Masood Ahmad May 29, 2021 10:57pm
@The Doctor 100% agree!
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Jonjon May 30, 2021 12:52am
She’s in a Muslim country. Is any one allowed to wear tight clothes? Who and what defines right from wrong? Who defines boundaries and limits of decency? Is it people!
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ST May 30, 2021 08:51am
Just covering your body doesnt mean you are covered. Should be loose and not revealing the shape of the body.
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Realistic May 30, 2021 12:35pm
Tell her to keep her mouth shut and body covered
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laughter May 30, 2021 02:09pm
All things related to sexual expression should be private and do it at home. It has no business in public. Human beings can be attracted to any part of other human beings. If men wear modest clothes what is wrong with women then.
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Muneer May 30, 2021 03:45pm
@Chrís Dăn You made woman porn star, talk about that... Instead of helping them, your own "great culture" exploited them to become porn star... You guys did it to woman and now you want ys to follow you...
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Jondon May 30, 2021 06:56pm
@RationalBabu who defines what should be covered?
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Jondon May 30, 2021 07:02pm
@Ahmad are you serious? Every society has a dress code. Who decided what is appropriate? If your society tells you that you can go to a nudist beach. Is it acceptable because society and its changing values tell you it is ok?
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Khalid iqbal May 31, 2021 12:07am
Human bodies are sexual , that is what they are meant to be , that is the joy , when a man marries his women and makes her his wife , it is out of that comes love , affection and joy , it’s no trivial matter.
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Shahid Mahmood May 31, 2021 05:01am
The problem lies in that women themselves try their utmost to present their body figures for the sexual attraction of men. Isn't this true when you look at 90% of ads?
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Shoaib Manzoor May 31, 2021 04:00pm
Shameful girl
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Zeeshan Ahmed May 31, 2021 09:31pm
You should respect the norms and values of the society you live in.
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naseer Jun 01, 2021 06:01am
Need cultural modification, slow and steady change. prolonged passionate persistent actions.
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