In a country like Pakistan where a happily divorced woman is considered to be an anomaly, model and actor Rubya Chaudhry has opened up about her own life in an attempt to reduce the stigma surrounding broken marriages and the burden women have to bare soon after.
"I always knew people can be crass and ill-mannered, but there isn’t anything like experiencing it first hand," she wrote with a heavy heart, reiterating finally feeling the need to put her foot down.
"I got married a few years ago, and then got divorced super quickly after. And that’s that really," Chaudhry continued, mentioning how she didn't really put up her private life up for speculation, but she wouldn't blame the public for being curious. "Well now you know".
However, the Bench actor went on to introduce the concept of divorce with dignity, mentioning how parting from a toxic relationship doesn't always mean end of a life, as it could also be the beginning of another.
"I'd also like to add that divorce doesn’t always mean sadness and death and hayay hayay yeh kya hogya! Hayayyy bachi ki zindagi tabaaah ho gai! It could also mean bachi ki zindagi tabaah honay say BACH gayee. It also means a second chance at love, at life, at all the wonderfully amazing chapters that may have never actualized had you chosen the dead end as your destiny."
"Choose to thrive. Choose divorce if it ain’t your scene and stop worrying about all the ill-mannered and crass people around," she advised those who might be going through a similar situation.
Rubya also added how she didn't have to get into the details or compromise her privacy, but it was important to speak up.
"This is not just about me, it’s about the hundreds of thousands of women who are made to feel like they should be ashamed if their marriages didn’t work out, who are told time and again by their own husbands and in-laws that there’s something wrong with them, that they need to change themselves to fit into some mould of the perfect wife (whatever that is), who are gaslighted continuously and stripped off their vibrant personalities."
"Basically, what i'm saying is Alhamdulillah," she continued, encouraging women to choose themselves and ignore those bringing them down with unnecessary comments.
More power to her!