'Unbearable grief': Meghan Markle reveals she had a miscarriage in 2020

'Unbearable grief': Meghan Markle reveals she had a miscarriage in 2020

Loss and pain have plagued every one of us in 2020, writes the Duchess of Sussex.
Updated 25 Nov, 2020

Duchess of Sussex Meghan Markle has revealed she had a miscarriage in July.

"I knew, as I clutched my firstborn child, that I was losing my second," said Meghan, in an article penned for The New York Times, titled 'The Losses We Share'.

Meghan and Prince Harry, the Duke of Sussex, had their first child, Archie, on May 6, 2019. After stepping back as senior royals in January, the duke and duchess moved to California and “settled into the quiet privacy of their community”.

"This year has brought so many of us to our breaking points. Loss and pain have plagued every one of us in 2020, in moments both fraught and debilitating," she wrote.

"Losing a child means carrying an almost unbearable grief, experienced by many but talked about by few. In the pain of our loss, my husband and I discovered that in a room of 100 women, 10 to 20 of them will have suffered from miscarriage.

"Yet, despite the staggering commonality of this pain, the conversation remains taboo, riddled with (unwarranted) shame, and perpetuating a cycle of solitary mourning," the 39-year-old observed.

"Some have bravely shared their stories; they have opened the door, knowing that when one person speaks truth, it gives license for all of us to do the same. We have learned that when people ask how any of us are doing, and when they really listen to the answer, with an open heart and mind, the load of grief often becomes lighter — for all of us."

Meghan then called on people to commit this Thanksgiving to asking others, 'Are you OK?'.

"As much as we may disagree, as physically distanced as we may be, the truth is that we are more connected than ever because of all we have individually and collectively endured this year."

Touching upon Covid-19 and its impact, she wrote: "We are adjusting to a new normal where faces are concealed by masks, but it’s forcing us to look into one another’s eyes — sometimes filled with warmth, other times with tears. For the first time, in a long time, as human beings, we are really seeing one another."

"Are we OK? We will be," she said, ending her article on a hopeful note.


LgbtqX Nov 25, 2020 04:44pm
Thanks for informing us.
Chacha Jee Nov 26, 2020 07:26am
I don't understand what Harry ( no Longer a Prince now..thanks to you) saw in you.
Abdali Nov 26, 2020 12:04pm
Good for nothing royal.
An actual human Nov 26, 2020 11:50pm
Well you read it & commented, so... you’re welcome. You’re obviously intrigued. Harry saw and sees a beautiful, strong, Black woman, ery’ day. Maybe, but the Crown is so good. Lol. Get a life people! I was just reading about her miscarriage. Have a heart and stop being so bitter.