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What makes a good husband according to Mansha Pasha?

What makes a good husband according to Mansha Pasha?

Hint: it's more than just being a good man.
19 Sep, 2024

Actor Mansha Pasha, who has been happily married to lawyer and activist Jibran Nasir since 2021, recently appeared on Mazaaq Raat and detailed what she believes makes a good husband — or a good wife.

“Just because someone’s a good person, doesn’t mean they’re a good partner,” she shared.

Pasha, who was previously married to businessman Asad Farooqi, reflected on her initial doubts and eventual clarity about Nasir. Looking back at their relationship, she said, “When I first met Jibran, I knew he was the right fit for me. I said it in my heart at the time, and I waited for him to say it back to me in real life.”

The Laal Kabootar actor also admitted to feeling unsettled about her gut instinct. “I’m not the type of person to believe in instant love. I thought maybe I was overthinking it. I didn’t know whether I was right or wrong — I just had this feeling that he was the one for me.”

As the two spent more time together, Pasha realised that her instincts were leading her to the person who was right for her, not just the right person. “After getting to know him, I realised that whatever I had felt for him from the start was correct.

“You need to understand that a good man doesn’t necessarily make a good husband, just the way all good women do not always make good wives,” she stressed. “Before you marry a man, you should see how he will behave as a husband — not just whether he can take care of other people, but whether he can take care of you.”

Pasha illustrated this with an anecdote. She recalled an incident where she accidentally broke a glass, and instead of getting upset or pointing fingers, Nasir calmly cleaned up the mess. “I realised that even though it was my fault, and my mess, he instantly showed concern for me and started to clean it up.”

For Pasha, the moment was a small yet powerful reflection of Nasir’s nature. “He has shown in so many ways that he is caring. He doesn’t focus on the fault. He focuses on how it can be fixed.”

Pasha and Nasir got engaged in 2019. During their engagement, Nasir spoke about taking inspiration from his then-fianceé. “She is an enterprising, ambitious working woman. She also has her alone time, some hours to explore herself, her talent as an actress, and that is what brings me inspiration.” The two tied the knot in 2021.

Comments

Busaifo Sep 19, 2024 12:05pm
You are an actor, living in a virtual character of the role given on a particular set or film. If you do that good , viewers are very happy and you are well rewarded. Just live in that and be happy and continue to entertain the viewers, that is what you pretty much are, 'a good entertainer'.
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Ahmed Sep 19, 2024 12:36pm
If a person isn't a good husband then he's not a good man. So a good man does make a good husband. How exactly can a woman know if a man will make a good husband without marrying him. That's illogical by definition.
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Amir Ullah Sep 19, 2024 01:23pm
She is right in his own place but some women need to be dressed well , looking nice and all other stuffs that fulfill their outlook. So all those men who are completed by taking wives ' expenses are good for them. This is my opinion.
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Dr. Salaria, Aamir Ahmad Sep 19, 2024 01:45pm
The wife is always right.
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sufyan Sep 19, 2024 02:28pm
What a thought provoking content. if a woman start cleaning up the mess in front of man that would be patriarchy
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Taj Ahmad Sep 19, 2024 02:30pm
Love respect and understanding makes a new couple a better family. Let’s go for it.
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Taj Ahmad Sep 19, 2024 04:35pm
Today is my grand daughter’s birthday and she turns six years now, as grand parents I would like to have every girls and boys to have a good marriage life when they grown up in future, Amen.
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Jamil Soomro Sep 19, 2024 04:54pm
Marriage is an extremely serious matter. How come Actress Mansha Pasha didn't listen to her instinct( sixth sense) when she married her first husband Asad Farooqi.?
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Taj Ahmad Sep 19, 2024 05:06pm
Nice couple Jibran and Pasha, wish both long lasting marriage and good health and happiness all year around.
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Ali Saryawala Sep 19, 2024 05:59pm
So if a person picks up the mess of a broken glass which was not broken by him certifies him to be a good husband.
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Salman Sep 19, 2024 06:11pm
Well said Ahmed. I couldn't agree more.
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Ehsan Sep 19, 2024 07:14pm
Power couple, more power to them
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Iqbal bhai Sep 19, 2024 07:31pm
Imagine an article "What makes a good wife". The response will be "nobody but the wife has the right to define her behavior. It is male dominance to define what a good wife is".
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Khan Sep 19, 2024 07:55pm
I think, this report is useless as she has the useless thoughts. What is meant by good and bad. If you are a right person then other is also good. BUILDING self good character is very important for relationships.
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Fawaz Sep 19, 2024 08:28pm
it’s called dating
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Laila Sep 19, 2024 10:30pm
@AHMED Well you ask an important question but your conclusion is incorrect. Finding out before marriage if the man will be a good husband is not illogical by definition because you cannot define something which varies from person to person and from case to case. How you find a spouse is a relative and subjective process and not bound by any set definition other than what people choose or have imposed upon them by elders/family/society. Some families prohibit any pre marital (NOT sexual) contact, such as dating, getting to know conversations between the male and female. Everything is agreed upon by the elders often without consulting the will of the boy and girl. Others allow certain things like questions posed through parents, or chaperoned meetings, or even unchaperoned meetings. Some allow dating in the sense that you can meet and talk to the person and choose him or her if you feel they are right for you. Some families misinterpret and misuse the engagement period to allow for dating and far too much liberty. Some marriages are forced under the guise of arranged, some are arranged with consent of both, some only include consent of the boy, some are allowed to find and choose their own spouse through work, college, social or family gatherings. So the process is not defined as one set size. Every couple/marriage is different. Also observe the person in a natural setting like family, or friends or such. This can also rove helpful. Now to your question. The obvious way would be to allow the boy and girl to meet and talk in public setting, chaperoned or not, and both need to think and decide what they want in a spouse and bring that mental list with them and ask those questions, no matter how intimate, awkward, unusual or bold the questions seem. It's a decision which will impact their life and those of their ofspring. Especially females who are often denied divorce by their husbands as a way of punishment so to keep her from moving on with her life, but also her own family/parents. Most girls are denied the right to even read, let alone select their rights in the nikkahnama/marriage contract so to keep them ignorant and weaken them because our society thinks gils should stay submissive, weak and dependent. Girls should read nikahnamas with or without their parents help and inform themselves of the legal rights and the Islamic rights and make sure to inform the potential groom to be, that these things are important and deal breakers (such as no to
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Laila Sep 19, 2024 10:46pm
@SUFYAN There is an abundance of free literature and articles on 'Patriarchy'. Also, I highly recommend you first look up and understand the definition. It will help you in using it correctly next time. Cleaning up ones own mess or helping your spouse in cleaning up theirs is not patriarchy nor feminism or any other buzz word. Consider why we don't have institutionalized or state run matriarchy in pakistan and why you won't like to have that and why many females and males oppose patriarchy. You will find the reasons are similar. One thing is what somebody CHOOSES to do for somebody else (without force). Another is what society EXPECTS and feels ENTITLED TO to what you should do as a female. One leads to a happy fulfilled tranquil union, the other to miserable and dysfunctional captivity.
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Laila Sep 19, 2024 10:50pm
@JAMIL SOOMRO Maybe she did but human instincts are not always a guarantee. Humans are flawed. Otherwise we would never have divorces or disputes. Maybe she was young and didn't know what she knows today. Even the best of intentions are never a guarantor. Lets not blame her for why her previous marriage didn't work out.
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Raj joshi Sep 19, 2024 11:36pm
If a husband doesn’t scream at his if she unintentionally breaks a glass and that makes him a good husband, I would say that’s a very low bar to be a good husband. If a wife doesn’t scream at her husband if he breaks a glass, will she be considered a good wife?
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Ali Saryawala Sep 20, 2024 09:06am
There is censorship in Dawn too as not all comments are publidhed
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Hafizullah Sep 20, 2024 11:44am
our society put whole burden on man and says what makes a good husband you hear this phrase everywhere, and talk about equality , what about what makes a good wife? no one asks,
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NYS Sep 20, 2024 03:16pm
When Jibran N was abducted by some strangers in broad day light( odd months ago )and she was in commotion , is this one more point to achieve success in relationships
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Jamil Soomro Sep 20, 2024 05:04pm
@ LAILA In the case of Mansha Pasha according to your thinking( instinctively ) how young is young.?
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Laila Sep 20, 2024 09:56pm
@JAMIL SOOMRO Well that would depend on the girl. Also I don't know Mansha, so obviously I can't speak for her. Neither can you. Only she knows what is or was right for her or not. Ironically, if you watch her interview, Mansha actually gives reasons such as being to young. Just because a girl has her monthly courses does not mean she is ready for marriage. Now will you answer my initial question, would you have questioned the past marriage/divorce if Mansha was a man? Why are you preoccupied with her divorce? Like I said every couple, individual and every marriage is different. There is no one size fits all. Kindly understand this.
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