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MNA Sher Afzal Marwat’s reason for not remarrying to have a kid is a lesson in respecting your wife

MNA Sher Afzal Marwat’s reason for not remarrying to have a kid is a lesson in respecting your wife

You should never do that to your wife, the politician said on a recent podcast, calling it 'deeply cruel'.
26 Apr, 2024

PTI MNA Sher Afzal Marwat made a refreshing personal revelation during a recent podcast appearance — he refused to give in to family pressure and remarry in order to have a male heir.

During a candid conversation with host Nadir Ali on his podcast, the politicians said he was faced with the dilemma in 2007 amid mounting familial expectations. After being married for six years without a child, his own wife suggested that he consider remarrying — a common practice among many traditional families seeking male offspring.

“My wife told me I should marry again,” Marwat revealed. “My son had not been born at the time, and we’d been married for six years. My father was still alive and taking on a second wife for a male heir was a norm.”

However, after giving the matter careful consideration, Marwat’s conscience led him to a commendable decision, one that is often rare within conservative subsets of Pakistani society.

“I thought about it for some time and then told her that I couldn’t put her through such pain,” he said. Marwat’s decision was deeply rooted in the recognition of the sacrifices his wife has had to make during their marriage, including leaving a whole way of life behind just to be with him.

“My wife was very serious when she told me to marry again to someone who could bear me a son but I don’t think you should ever do that to your wife,” he said. Marwat went on to state that such an act would be “deeply cruel” to any woman who left everything behind to be with a man and his family.

“Like everyone else, a woman has just one life. She has left practically everything in her life to start a life with you,” he reminded Ali and their viewers.

Marwat’s statement is a powerful one — stick with the person you’ve married through thick and thin. It’s also a lovely example of what sounds like a great marriage, one in which both partners respect each other. His story should encourage others to reconsider their perspectives on marriage and family under the lens of mutual respect and equality.

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Farhan Shoukat Apr 26, 2024 03:49pm
I wasn't expecting such a responsible statement on such an issue which is prevalent in our society from this gentleman. Much appreciated.
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syed abu ahmad akif Apr 26, 2024 03:50pm
Very commendable. May he be the inspiration to many.
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Zia Rehman Apr 26, 2024 03:51pm
Absolutely right.Sometimes you have to wait little longer to have positive results. He made a very good decision for the sake of her life.we need to be careful and should not be emotional for taking such decisions.Always think about others before thinking about yourself.
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Kashif Apr 26, 2024 04:14pm
Good example in Pakistani society. It is sad that we are still struggling with basic concepts of mutual respect and equality.
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Khalid Javed Apr 26, 2024 04:29pm
There are millions of people with the same thinking nothing special about him that you have to advertise thst
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Syed Ahmed Apr 26, 2024 04:34pm
Respect from bottom of my heart
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Shaista Apr 26, 2024 04:44pm
Infertility can beset males or females. I have seen him raise his hand more than once in the public domain when he doesn't get his way and he needs to change this response to be a role model.
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fsheikh Apr 26, 2024 05:16pm
Commendable action by MR Marwat.
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Taj Ahmad Apr 26, 2024 06:25pm
Great example set by this couple specially by Mr.Marwat being not going for second marriage just to have his kids because he had no kids with his first wife. I pray for Mr.Marwat and his only wife and suggest to adopt a baby girl or boy from Edhi Trust if they really wants children but no guarantee to have children after second marriage.
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Taj Ahmad Apr 26, 2024 06:32pm
Great couple put their first marriage first with or without children desires first. I wish this couple all success and happiness continue together in the years to come, Amen.
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Gulab Apr 26, 2024 06:43pm
Now this is what you call a MAN!
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Naeemullah Shah Apr 26, 2024 06:49pm
Full marks to this guy.
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Ehsan Apr 26, 2024 06:55pm
Coming from hai background shows him to be a strong willed gentleman. Also point to recognize is that not having a child is not just because of woman.
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Seema Apr 26, 2024 07:00pm
Much respect for your decision Mr. Marwat. also new studies show the gender of the child is determined by the male seed not the female ovary. Many women have suffered due to this archaic mode of thinking. Thank you again for sharing this very personal experience and I hope and pray our society will learn from it and follow suit.
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Kamran Khan Apr 26, 2024 07:06pm
Sure - but he could be the reason they aren’t having kids.
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Haroon Apr 26, 2024 07:22pm
A wonderful person
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Riaz Apr 26, 2024 07:23pm
Amazing. Lot is respect for MNA's views. All humans should think like that - respect should be mutual for your partner, through thick and thin of life.
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S S Sarwar Apr 26, 2024 07:57pm
What a remarkable man.
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Asad Apr 26, 2024 08:31pm
More respect for Sher Afzal Marwat. Salute to you, Sir.
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JRB Apr 26, 2024 08:46pm
Commendable, a positive example.
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Jamshed Qamar Apr 26, 2024 08:49pm
Very commendable . My respect for Sher Afzal Merwat has increased.
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No one Apr 26, 2024 09:31pm
Commendable indeed !!!
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Shahid Siddiqui Apr 26, 2024 10:12pm
Bravo
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Syed Apr 26, 2024 10:26pm
Beautiful heart and soul ❤️ Difficult for women to share husband with someone.
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Aftab Qureshi Apr 26, 2024 10:31pm
I deeply admire him for the decision he took against second marriage. When I myself got married back in 1975, I had a firm belief that, even though Islam allowed polygamy, for me there would only be one marriage, one wife. Alhamdulillah, it's since been 49 years and counting!
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NYS Apr 26, 2024 10:35pm
MNA SHER AFZAL MARWAT Respect for you and your bright thought ,that you have given regard to a vulnerable woman
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zia Uddin Apr 26, 2024 11:04pm
Mr. Marwat did the correct thing. I was married for >50 years with no children. My wife asked me to divorce her (a easy thing in America), but I refused. We must respect females.
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M.Saeed Apr 26, 2024 11:36pm
What is the proof that Marwat himself is not the reason behind not having a child?
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Sathya Apr 27, 2024 06:04am
Good to see some maturity among the men. The second point is, why is the woman's issue if a child is not born. The man is equally responsible. Why should the woman not marry someone to get an offspring. Our entire system is ridiculous
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Abdul Apr 27, 2024 07:22am
Nice story.
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Ahsan Gul Apr 27, 2024 10:55am
Great politician, and great person he is!
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umer Apr 29, 2024 10:06am
man usually finds an excuse to remarry, but his decision is much commendable.
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Jaml Najmi Apr 29, 2024 10:35am
Hw is a smart person, but does not know ABC of Biology and what determines a baby's sex. Actually, he is the reason, since every time he conceived his wife, he kept giving her 'X' chromosome. Instead he should have provided her 'Y' chromosome for her to bear a baby boy. Therefore, it is the wife who should have been looking elsewhere. Therefore, Mr Marwat should keep is generosity back in his pocket. She never needed it. This is a lesson for those who wrongly accuse women or hold them responsible for not giving birth to a baby of their choice (male vs female). It is the man who is responsible 100 percent of the time.
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