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Here’s a reminder from Ainy Jaffri — abuse is always unacceptable

Here’s a reminder from Ainy Jaffri — abuse is always unacceptable

The actor appeared on a podcast where she said that it isn't a woman's job to "fix" her significant other — and she's absolutely correct.
21 Feb, 2024

Ainy Jaffri had some sage advice for women everywhere during her appearance on a podcast for FHM Pakistan — that abuse is unacceptable and it isn’t a woman’s job to “fix” her significant other.

During the interview, Jaffri said, “[a] husband, boyfriend, fiancé, any man your parents introduce you to… any form of torture is unacceptable [at his hands]”. She added that if a woman’s partner hit her the relationship was “over and done” with.

“He will never change. How do I explain this,” Jaffri pleaded, palms pressed together and raised to her forehead in exasperation.

She emphasised repeatedly that an abusive partner would “never change”, and would instead perpetrate more violence against the victim. She added that if he “won’t hit you later, that’s good for him to have changed but he is not your problem”.

The Balu Mahi actor maintained that husbands were not for women to “fix”. “He is not your child that you need to fix him. It is your right that you marry a man who is already inherently a good person,” she said.

Jaffri continued that women do not need to be a “mother” to their partner or believe that they will “fix” him, adding that that was the man’s “mother’s job — not yours”.

“You will become his mother, and your own children’s mother and raise all of them together,” she warned.

Jaffri’s words are extremely important, especially as a 2020 report by the Human Rights Commission of Pakistan showed that over 90 per cent of Pakistani women have faced domestic violence in their lifetime. It is important that public figures with a platform not only continue to raise their voices against domestic violence but also help their followers understand their rights.

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Irfan ali Feb 21, 2024 04:53pm
Right
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Ahmed Feb 21, 2024 05:18pm
There haven't been occasions where women have shown patience and have changed entire families. But what would aurat March wali women understand
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Syed Hasni Feb 21, 2024 06:41pm
The most important factor in a relationship is not communication but respect. Abuse of any kind (verbal, physical and emotional) is unacceptable.
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Aamir Latif Feb 21, 2024 06:47pm
Rightly said, but just wanted to add one point.. Wife should equally respect her husband, insult or humiliation by any one partner against other is end of relationship.
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Ehsan Feb 21, 2024 07:51pm
Pakistani men are not taught how to behave with women
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Faisal Ejaz Feb 22, 2024 03:36am
Verbal Abuse is also unacceptable.
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Sharjeel Syed Feb 22, 2024 09:13am
Very rightly said. Instead of setting rules in a relationship, its better to have coaching done to both spouses regarding fundamental human rights and duties. We should definitely talk about rights but should be equally focused on responsibilities. One without the other is incomplete.
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Oracle Feb 22, 2024 10:59am
Absolutely agreed. If you take the logic further, teach your sons to respect women and not be abusive towards women. Hitting women is a NO NO, not withstanding any religious dictat.
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raj Feb 22, 2024 11:14am
she is brave and int;intelligent women -salute to her advise " you are not his mother to fix him /your partner" if he is abuse now he will be latter again -very true
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vijay, salem Feb 22, 2024 12:27pm
True... The Balu Mahi actor maintained that husbands were not for women to “fix”. “He is not your child that you need to fix him. It is your right that you marry a man who is already inherently a good person,” she said.
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