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Parents should get weekly classes on how to deal with children: Sajal Aly

Parents should get weekly classes on how to deal with children: Sajal Aly

The Sinf-e-Aahan actor says children are not the only ones who need to be taught "how to behave and conduct themselves."
26 Apr, 2022

Actor Sajal Aly made a bold move that may make some people uncomfortable when she said that children are not the only ones who need to be taught how to behave — parents need to learn how to treat their children right as well. It is a relationship that requires effort from both sides and she couldn't be more right.

"I believe, along with teaching children how to behave and conduct themselves, we should also teach parents how to treat their children," she wrote in a tweet. "Parents should get weekly classes (one hour a week, minimum) on how to deal with children and their dilemmas."

The Sinf-e-Aahan actor highlighted the fact that children are not playthings that can be moulded according to their parents' liking — they're individuals who deserve the same respect and disciplined response that is expected of them. It is a two-sided relationship that requires effort on both sides but the greater side needs to be the parents' — to bring another human being into the world is automatically shouldering the duty to raise them and do right by them. This includes learning to give them the space and attention they require to grow healthily.

This is not the first time a celebrity has brought attention to the parents' responsibility in the dynamic. Actor Mohsin Abbas Haider went into detail discussing the issue of child abuse as it pertained to an upcoming drama of his in 2018. He said we need to teach parents to listen to their children and hoped to achieve that through the drama.

"We want to bridge the gap between the family and the survivor of abuse. We want to teach children that the moment they are uncomfortable with someone they need the confidence to say it to their parents and we want to teach the parents to listen to their children and understand where they're coming from," he captioned his Instagram post.

Expanding a bit more on bridging the communication gap within families, he said, "Parents are supposed to be the most trustworthy unit for their children. We want children to be instilled with such confidence that they can tell their parents about anything and parents need to have awareness and be alert with their children."

The "awareness" and alertness that Abbas mentioned needs to apply to all situations — parents need to be attentive of the needs and behaviours of their children and sometimes that requires learning. No one is born a parent but everyone has the choice to make a conscious effort and learn more about it to allow their child to have the best shot at life and a good relationship with their parents.

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M. Saeed Apr 26, 2022 05:23pm
It has been established since early 80's that the nature and basic character of a child establishes in the first 36 months of child's age. That is the time when maximum care is required by parents to groom the child. Unfortunately, that is also the time we all ignore and spoil the child in extra pampering and spoiling manners.
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Khan Apr 26, 2022 05:27pm
Did your grand parents and parents attended classes?
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Aban Usmani Apr 26, 2022 05:30pm
With the broken joint family system where elder brothers and uncles and aunts provided support to new couples the new generation of parents who are successful in getting financial independence early in life need lot of guidance on all social aspects of life. Not only child rearing but interpersonal skills are also very poor and need education
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Adeel Apr 26, 2022 05:33pm
i trust Dua when she said her parents were forcing her into a marriage with someone she didn't like. This is very typical of desi families. Happened to many ladies in my family who were married off at 15-16
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NYS Apr 26, 2022 05:41pm
Arguably, she raised valid point unfortunately, to be clear there is no counselling centre for parents how to behave with new genere teens or children in general , this is twenty first century but parents are in vain how to counter even their own offsprings the dilemma ...
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Soniye Tu Auder Te La Apr 26, 2022 05:59pm
And children should get hourly classes on how to respect and fully obey their parents.
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ST Apr 26, 2022 06:04pm
She is right . Both needs counselling. Children as well as parents as it takes two hands to clap
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Citizen Apr 26, 2022 06:10pm
Madam you cannot generalize this evil act. Not all girls are same type. There is huge community in rural areas, please also talk for them
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Rick Apr 26, 2022 07:20pm
Funny in a country were children do not even have access to education. Really sill comment by a rich elite
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Sab Se Pehle Pakistan Apr 26, 2022 07:34pm
The losers who are responsible for destroying the social fabric of our society are giving an advice to the Parents of our country.
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Zulfiqar Apr 26, 2022 07:43pm
Parenting is a skill and better parenting does require parents to educate themselves about the subject. Every couple should be required to attend a course before nikah nama is issued.
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TPA Apr 26, 2022 08:07pm
She needs to get her head checked first.
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Syed Abdi Apr 26, 2022 08:27pm
Could not save your own marital status before asking for parenting
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Sam kahn Apr 26, 2022 08:40pm
You lost your mind telling mothers and fathers what to do and what not too
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Dr. Bushra Khan Apr 26, 2022 09:18pm
She will understand how hard parenting is when she becomes a mother. It is very easy to advise but its hard to put yourself in those parents shoes
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Khosa Apr 26, 2022 09:46pm
Be a role model. Start with yourself if you are a parent or plan to be one.
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Altaf Hamid Apr 26, 2022 09:55pm
I totally agree with sajal that parents need classes rather therapy as these days they cannot cope with their demanding children It's a very good idea and no harm for the parents and their children This way the homes will be happy and healthy
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Siva Apr 26, 2022 10:03pm
Makes sense. Controlling behavior of parents be done away with for children to grow as matured and balanced citizens of this world.
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Aamer Sharif Apr 26, 2022 10:22pm
Children learn from us, observe and reflect within themselves when grow. I can safely say children are reflection of their parents OR environment given to them.
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Aamer Sharif Apr 26, 2022 10:26pm
It’s simple environment provided reflects in your children. It’s that simple. You child is reflection of yourself and environment he/she was grown in. If don’t lie and talk/behave respectfully you will see the same in your children.
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Art Apr 26, 2022 11:16pm
Yes Pakistani parents definitely needs lessons!
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thinking Apr 26, 2022 11:39pm
@Rick children dont get educated, because parents are busy producing babies all the while
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Tas Apr 27, 2022 12:06am
She's absolutely right! I agree with her completely...I was led to believe children should respect their parents,elders and not vice versa... I wish I had been a loving, caring and understanding parent and mainly wish I had treated my children with respect,I wish I had told my son to treat his younger sister with respect and love... I needed to learn all this... Now I am bearing the brunt of being a bad parent at this old age... My children don't care for me,they hate me I think
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Philosopher (From Japan) Apr 27, 2022 01:07am
so called Beauty without Brain.
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Ahsan Gul Apr 27, 2022 01:48am
More than enough good responses on this issue. “Children are a true reflection of their parents”. So why we have big issues in our society? What we say most of us doesn’t reflect in our actions. Same goes for our leadership. Corrupt leaders then we have corrupt society. Sincerely
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Shaheryar Apr 27, 2022 02:09am
I totally agree with Sajal maam
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Babar Apr 27, 2022 03:01am
Surprisingly parents of all legends and most decent personalities in Pakistan didn't attend such classes infact most of them were not even educated. "Tameez" comes from inside not from classes.
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Hansoti sh Apr 27, 2022 03:22am
@Aban Usmani fantastic point
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Fatima Alvi Apr 27, 2022 05:14am
Agreed!!!!
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MUKHTAR ALI NAQVI Apr 27, 2022 05:40am
IT IS A VERY GOOD IDEA.
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Kursi Kursi Apr 27, 2022 05:46am
Excellent idea. Parents should get weekly class on how to deal with children.
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Ravi Kumar Emani Apr 27, 2022 07:15am
Correct. Children learn from parents, whether Good or Bad. Hence, Parents should be taught.
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Harambe Apr 27, 2022 09:16am
@Khan : They lived in different times!
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Harambe Apr 27, 2022 09:19am
@NYS: Make women the heads of families! Let them control the household budget! Pakistan will see immediate change!
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Harambe Apr 27, 2022 09:24am
@Rick : 1st send kids to school with decent teachers!
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Harambe Apr 27, 2022 09:55am
@Altaf Hamid : Education costs LESS than therapy!
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Fatima Apr 27, 2022 11:01am
@Syed Abdi there's literally no point of blaming her for that. U don't even know the whole story
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Rao Amjad Ali Apr 27, 2022 11:02am
Weekly classes for parents and community elders are an excellent idea! In many western countries, such education is provided free of cost through programs like the church-based Sunday school that have yielded positive outcomes.
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Zain Apr 27, 2022 01:02pm
She should first act like adult herself and not run away from her marraige commitment
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Frontman Apr 27, 2022 01:57pm
Parenting in Pakistan means danda only. Danda works 50% of the time.
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ALTAF NOOR ALI Apr 27, 2022 02:26pm
I feel very good that Sajal articulated a thought I have been voicing for decades. Parents must complete their own education upto a minimum level. Our future generation will be as educated as the parents are, with few exceptions. Sajal is an intelligent and a bold artist.
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Aaliyah Apr 27, 2022 06:55pm
@ST your right. But as a child myself My parents have to get the classes first because we copy whatever our parents do.
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Aaliyah Apr 27, 2022 06:57pm
@Zulfiqar I agree or at least understand one of the best responsibilities they will have to take.
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anum Apr 27, 2022 09:22pm
Please google anokhey parents.
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SAS Apr 28, 2022 09:48am
@Khan exactly great point.....this era gives new generation freedom of speech, with no boundaries.
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Ramay Apr 28, 2022 03:15pm
@Khan....... but now should attend classes of parental guidance,if not attended 30/40years ago.The social media has spoiled this generation.
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Ramay Apr 28, 2022 03:23pm
An extremely valid issue spotlighted by the role model of the new generation, very late,but still valuable, after many casualties ie Noor Makhdam and Dua recently.
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Nadia Apr 29, 2022 04:58am
She is quite right
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Zulfiqar Apr 29, 2022 02:47pm
Like with everything else in life education is the key
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Arian Apr 29, 2022 05:11pm
Right Parents should be thought about how to manage their children Otherwise Child will become a shameless actress etc. My talking is not personal judgement on anyone just talking that "Value of statement is judge on person who is stating it" Otherwise same Case come (Hareem shah is talking about teaching of islam and how to cure harassment from Pakistan)
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Alexa May 01, 2022 11:21am
Very right. And teachers should also get classes on how to treat their pupils fairly.
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