Model Zara Peerzada is done with your questions about her shaadi

The model was recently asked when she's getting married multiple times and she's had it with these questions.

17 Apr, 2019

Model Zara Peerzada has spoken for all of us single women out there.

Addressing the issue of marriage, the model said that people need to stop meddling into women's business. "Why is marriage my only goal, or the only one anyone is interested in?" she asks.

"This week, in a span of 5 days, I was asked 'when I’m getting married' 17 times. Not that this in any way is a novel occurrence for the Pakistani woman. I would say, even taking fashion week into account - 17 times is a bit excessive.

"The ‘when’ always turns into a ‘why aren’t you?’ - to which, I’ve realised there is no correct response (“I’m not ready”, being the worst)," she says.

Zara adds, "This question, is just a prelude to the inevitable ‘let me reinforce everything society’s told you, in case you missed the memo about The Doom of the Unmarried’ (distributed weekly) spiel masked in concern, loosely laced with horror. They are met with this cocked head and blank stare."

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This week was exhausting. Minimal sleep, maximum discomfort, anxiety on fleek (On fleek? Are people still saying that? I hope not). This week, in a span of 5 days, I was asked when I’m getting married 17 times. Not that this in any way is a novel occurrence for the Pakistani woman. I would say, even taking fashion week into account - 17 times is a bit excessive. The ‘when’ always turns into a ‘why aren’t you?’ - to which, I’ve realised there is no correct response (“I’m not ready”, being the worst). This question, (posed by whichever scumoftheearth, distant acquaintance, monkeybottom, aunt’s cousin, personstandingnexttoyouaccidentally, would never be invited to your wedding anyway, snozzwanger) is just a prelude to the inevitable ‘let me reinforce everything society’s told you, in case you missed the memo about The Doom of the Unmarried’ (distributed weekly) spiel masked in concern, loosely laced with horror. They are met with this cocked head and blank stare. Why is marriage my only goal, or the only one anyone is interested in? Friends, countrymen, strangers at the gynaecologist. Stop making women feel like they’re underachieved or doomed because they are not married. Stop making women feel like they’re falling behind or missing out. Stop making women feel like this is something they need to be happy. Stop thinking there’s something wrong with women who aren’t married. Stop reminding them that you’re watching. Stop assuming they’re unhappy. Stop assuming that even if they are, they want to talk to you about it. Stop asking women things that are none of your god damn business. #onfleek

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She then gives a little lesson to those who feel compelled to ask women about their marital status.

"Stop making women feel like they’re underachieved or doomed because they are not married. Stop making women feel like they’re falling behind or missing out. Stop making women feel like this is something they need to be happy. Stop thinking there’s something wrong with women who aren’t married. Stop reminding them that you’re watching. Stop assuming they’re unhappy. Stop assuming that even if they are, they want to talk to you about it. Stop asking women things that are none of your god damn business."

Comments

abdullah Apr 17, 2019 04:15pm

Marriage is one question.... Once u get married the next very often asked question from the ladies is why are you not having a baby????.....and the story goes on and on and on...

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ALI TUNIO Apr 17, 2019 05:20pm

Leave poor girl alone, let her do whatever she wants to do. Marriage is not the only important thing in once life

Justice Apr 17, 2019 05:41pm

Getting married must be accepted as a free choice of a female and male, Both must also have equal rights for their future life. End result will be satisfactory life and no stress and no guilt feeling.

AA Apr 17, 2019 07:07pm

It's mostly women who ask this question to me. I have decided next time if someone asks, I will tell them to get a PhD like I did and the day they will do, I will get married.

Sameer Apr 17, 2019 07:21pm

thats fine...but when is she getting married?

Salman Apr 17, 2019 07:48pm

BTW the same is true in case men, saying from personal experience.

asim Apr 20, 2019 09:02am

A man who is not capable of living with himself is not capable of being with any body else; It is a strength not a weakness. Indeed zara is ahead of her time thats why she gets this questions many times.