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Rani Mukherjee is the latest Bollywood star to get the #MeToo movement all wrong

Rani Mukherjee is the latest Bollywood star to get the #MeToo movement all wrong

Rani believes martial arts training will put an end to abuse and exploitation in Bollywood and beyond
Updated 30 Dec, 2018

Some of Bollywood's biggest female stars — Deepika Padukone, Anushka Sharma, Tabu, Rani Mukherjee, Alia Bhatt and Taapsee Pannu — got together for some straight talk about their work as actors at the annual roundtable discussion hosted by CNN-News18's Rajeev Masand.

After initially touching on topics like the gradual evolution of female roles in Bollywood and the actors' key takeaways from 2018, the conversation soon veered towards what they make of the ongoing #MeToo movement in their country.

Some insightful opinions were shared, like Alia's hope that the #MeToo movement doesn't "become another reason to not employ women" in the film industry and shut women out from positions in film crews. Anushka said that people should be fearful of the consequences of their actions as she believes one's workplace ought to be "the second safest place apart from their home."

And Rani Mukherjee? That's where the conversation went awry.

Rani said that if women don't want to be harassed, they can prevent it by boosting their self-defense skills. Simple, right?

Here's what she said: "I think everything relates to what you want out of your life... It's important for women to believe in themselves and say that if they don't want it [harassment] to happen, it will not happen. And if they're in that situation the man should suffer right then and there. Either kick him between his legs or give him such a jhappar of his lifetime that the man will remember [that this woman beat me] and will not harass other women in the future. You should have the courage to protect yourself."

And try as her fellow actors might, she would not back down from her position.

When Deepika pointed out that not every woman is "constructed with that kind of DNA", that is, may not be as physically strong as men and may not possess the emotional strength or stamina to escape an exploitative situation, Rani offered, "Those are the women we need to talk to and tell them that they need to change." Yikes.

Also read: There is a sense of shame attached to reporting harassment, says SP Shahla Qureshi

When Anushka asked why all the onus of putting an end to harassment is being placed on women alone, Rani insisted that we can't "depend on how the other person will behave with us and have to take responsibility for our own selves." That sounds like 'men will be men' to us.

Read on: Mahira Khan drops 3 truthbombs about harassment in the workplace

When Alia brought up how young girls are often abused at home by their family, Rani said martial arts should become compulsory in schools. Again, it's just that simple in Rani's head.

When the host talks about how being 'obedient' makes the career climb smoother for young women in entertainment industries, Rani insists they shouldn't tolerate any form of bad behaviour like bullying. (Bas. Just don't do it.)

Related: When it comes to harassment, why can't we place blame where blame belongs?

It's only when Deepika asked why the issue should be allowed to get to the stage of self defence when it needs to be nipped in the bud that Rani acknowledged that we could consider how we raise young boys and girls but strangely only mentioned the role of mothers in the upbringing of children. So Rani doesn't want to just absolve men of their basic responsibility to respect people's boundaries but their parenting duties too.

The table was discernibly unsettled by Rani's victim-blaming stance and we wish the host or the other stars had used the time to unpack why that's problematic. It's almost 2019 and we still need to explain to people that abusers don't just get their way by physical strength — it's years of social conditioning to be polite, the fear of violence or a destroyed career when saying no, it's the persecution of victims after they speak up, the failure of the legal system to deliver justice, and so many more things. Why Rani thinks judo chopping our harassers will bring an end to this menace is beyond us.

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Shehzad Ali Dec 30, 2018 08:42pm
I agree with Rani 100%.
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Shahid Haneef Dec 30, 2018 11:32pm
Deepika is so pretty - the world’s most beautiful woman.
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Mhlengi Khumalo Dec 31, 2018 12:39am
She isn't blaming the victims all she is saying is that as women we can't relay on trying to change men or reach out to them to change what they do we have to take it upon ourselves to change how they treat us and show them that we have the power too......I 100% agree with her. Kids need to be taught from an early age how to respect the other sex, and that no means no, and that a woman's body is hers and hers only and she chooses who gets to share it with her. Also teaching kids self defence at a young age is a good thing cos it teaches them how to avoid or get away from such situations (it's the same thing as teaching your child not to talk to stranger or take candy).....sure each case runs on it's merits obviously cos of the different factors but if we teach our kids about these things and the possible ways to react to them we can decrease the number of vulnerable women.......
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Tayyab Dec 31, 2018 03:16am
If you don't agree with me then you got it wrong, It's like men defining feminism for women. It doesn't work, you can't tell people what something means to them, everyone have their story and a part to contribute. I dont agree with Rani but she must be allowed to contribute.
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SATT Dec 31, 2018 09:54am
Just hit at right 'part' of man,he will forget about his manhood.
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Ahsan Dec 31, 2018 11:24am
@Shehzad Ali that means like her, you are also unaware about the issue of harassment and should inform yourself about victim blaming and taking responsibility, instead of expecting victims to take responsibility on your behalf.
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Jerome S Dec 31, 2018 12:49pm
Rani M and many others in the limelight still seem to be trapped in the "hideous magic of opression" of the opressors. (Sadiyon kay baheemana talism - Faiz Ahmed Faiz)
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Aranya Dec 31, 2018 01:00pm
@Tayyab yes. No one has stopped her from expressing her views, her views were aired too. The problem is that I hope people don't trivialize the issue of harassment like the way she has done (not to fault her but she has formed a worldview based on her privileged background). 1. She puts onus of one's values on mothers 2. She is putting onus of one's safety on victim. So basically victims should learn defense, not venture out if home 3. Self Defense can help only to a point. Many women are victimized at age of even 3 or 6 or 12 when they just can't fight the men..let me not even talk about Delhi rape victim who was gang raped by 6 men in a public place at 8 pm, not late by any standards 4. Im not even going into how many economic opportunities women lose because some men want different kind of favours.the long tedious legal machinery doesn't mane it easy either I completely agree with deepika when she says why do we have to reach a point where we have to talk about self defense
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Gordon D. Walker Dec 31, 2018 01:01pm
Rani's solution is simplistic and ill informed. The intellectual ramblings of a person who lives in a world of smoke, mirrors and unending fiction.... Gordon D. Walker Canada
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Vijay B Jan 01, 2019 02:06am
One point everybody has posting here has missed (except for a brief mention in the last paragraph of the article) is that most sexual abuse in the work place don't happen when the man literally forces himself on the woman, like rape for instance, where martial arts training would help. But in reality, women are forced to submit under duress of not getting or losing a job or assignment, the threat of never being able to work again, or get a promotion, or even be demoted and maligned. So like it or not, almost in any workplace, but more so in the film industry, where newbies are looking for a break, these economic factors end up playing a big role, such that women although unwilling and even nauseated by some guy in power are literally forced to cave in, and then it can also be termed consensual sex, and the woman is shy of telling anyone about it, far less filing charges against the guy.
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