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03 Oct, 2018

Pop singer Hadiqa Kiani recently posted a series of photos with her 13-year-old son Naad-E-Ali and all some people could see that the photos were missing a man.

Hadiqa shared that she received many 'proposals' on Instagram from men who expressed their desire to marry her while acknowledging that she has a son. Now it's not obvious whether her 'suitors' are saying they wish to marry her for the sake of her son or despite her having a son, but Hadiqa says she's had enough of her child being used as an excuse to initiate talk about the need for her marriage.

In a story on Instagram, she bashed her 'suitors': "The notion that the single mother is a victim needing your pity or love is beyond me. The fact that men like this think that I, or any woman, is desperate for marriage because she has a child is disgusting. Having a child is not a disability. It's an honour and privilege."

"Stop using the child of a woman as a way to romance her or as a way to force her into a relationship because this society makes it seem like single mothers aren't capable of raising their children on their own."

She talked about her own experience of facing societal pressures when she adopted her child:

"When I chose to adopt, I was told by many that it would ruin my chances of remarrying. I know other women who have been harassed by family members and people in our society. Being told that they must find a father for their kids. And many men are amazing and kind and loving but there are evil men who take advantage of a single mother's children. The same relatives who tell you to remarry never seem to mention those men. I say all of this to say: Respect the single mother's capabilities as a parent."

She also had a message for women: "It is your job to encourage and uplift your fellow women, not judge her or force her into a relationship just for the sake of a relationship."

Comments

Zak Oct 03, 2018 11:39am
Respect to Hadiqa kayani, respect to single mum’s, they are the bravest of our society.
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Umar Bin Ayaz Oct 03, 2018 11:43am
yeah I agree, and the thing that we all need to realize is when it comes to raising kids. Women are way more fantastic than how guys are at it. But I actually havn't seen someone being "romanced" coz she is a single mother. People don't mostly go down that road. But if she happened to have experience that then we need to change of course.
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Alba Oct 03, 2018 11:44am
They are the only women in Pakistan who do stand up.
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HH Oct 03, 2018 11:47am
Good One
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Nomansland Oct 03, 2018 12:13pm
This is what happens when you look at women as your property or as the weaker sex... Consider them as normal human beings that are equally capable as their male counterparts... But unfortunetly you need better education and social consciousness for that which is hard in a very conservative society !!
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Khurram Oct 03, 2018 12:39pm
All that is fine and well. But anyone thinking about the child that he needs a father figure in his life or not? While women may not need a man to raise a child, a powerful female like Hadiqa Kayani definitely doesn't need a husband for that, but think from kid's perspective. While he sees other kids and his friends have both parents around loving them, he would feel a void.
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Ahmed Oct 03, 2018 02:39pm
Brave mother. A single mother bringing up a child is a tough job
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Sara Oct 03, 2018 03:47pm
Well done Hadiqa! The blame also goes to the media for presenting divorced/unmarried women as a failed human being. Women actually become more powerful after divorce.
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Babu Oct 03, 2018 03:55pm
Hadiqa kayani - We all support you. Being a single women is not your fault, it is better to stay singly rather than suffocate every moment in a relationship. Single women bringing up kids are very brave.
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nappy Oct 03, 2018 03:57pm
oh wow, this is refreshing to see in Pakistan. Finally Pakistani women are slowly realizing their worth, giving up naik parveen syndrome and standing up for what is right. It must be so tough to be a bold woman in a backward society such as Pakistan. Love, Ali from USA.
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Ayesha Oct 03, 2018 04:13pm
Well said Hadiqa! Stay strong.
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Aleem Oct 03, 2018 04:28pm
Pakistan is like a jungle full of animals who see every woman as a pray. Respect and deep admiration for woman like Hadiqa.
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N_Saq Oct 03, 2018 06:45pm
It is all in the mindset and it start with the leaders i.e. national, local, community, householder leaders etc etc. Pak has a long way to go but good job by Hadiqa. She needs all the support.
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Zeeshan Ahmed Oct 03, 2018 06:58pm
I can't imagine anything more difficult and challenging than being a single mother in a place like Pakistan, I have immense respect for their courage.
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Shazad Oct 03, 2018 10:15pm
@Khurram I think that's easier said than done...
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Rev. Eldrick Lal Oct 04, 2018 12:28am
In most cases, it is not the choice of any woman to be a single woman many times circumstances leads to that.
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