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'This is getting to a point where they will lose a husband and a son'

'This is getting to a point where they will lose a husband and a son'

Amir Khan breaks his silence over the domestic dispute involving his family and his wife Faryal Makhdoom
Updated 15 Nov, 2017

The domestic dispute between British-Pakistani boxer Amir Khan's family and his wife Faryal Makhdoom took an ugly turn yesterday.

In response to a TV interview in which Amir's parents conveyed their displeasure over Faryal's choice of clothes, Faryal shared a nude picture of her brother-in-law Haroon on Snapchat, claiming it was taken when he passed out drunk at a girl's house.

"My dressing is an issue? Double standards?" she asked. "Like Harry lying naked and drunk at a girl's house, sisters wearing no "dupatta", I guess that's okay [because] that's [their] blood and I'm just a daughter-in-law."

The dispute began earlier this month when Faryal created a Snapchat story, in which she claimed that she has long suffered harassment at the hands of her in-laws. She said that her in-laws attempted to hit her and also tried to engineer a divorce when she was nine months pregnant with the couple's first child. She claimed that her husband was also a victim of their bullying tactics.

Read more: I spoke up to make Pakistani women strong and to defend my husband, says Faryal Makhdoom

Amir Khan has maintained silence throughout this public dispute, but that changed with Faryal's latest Snapchats.

Earlier today, Amir tweeted that he's "had enough":

"I apologise for the silly picture and message my wife Faryal put up. Here is me working my a-- off... and my wife and my family are just destroying my name.... This is getting to a point where they will lose a husband and a son. Childish behaviour. Both parties need to stop this. I've had enough."

After his tweet, Faryal took to Snapchat to apologise for the photograph she shared of her brother-in-law, Haroon.

She said, "I was a bit angry and felt the need to justify myself. I've been travelling every single day during a US tour for the AK Foundation (Amir Khan Foundation) charity so I've been so stressed out reading all the comments of people talking about my dressing and things that aren't really as important as what I was saying. I got so much support and suddenly so much hate for absolutely no reason."

"I didn't realise that anger took over me and I hurt so many of my followers and young girls who follow me, so I apologise," she concluded.

Comments

Ahmed Dec 14, 2016 11:24am
This is neither a unique nor surprising, the only problem is that he is famous. This is a typical story of overseas expat Pakistanis living in US and UK. You can blame everyone and no one. I grew up in the US and kids are now second generation Americans - and I know eventually all of US will have to go through this just depends on in which generation. I pray for Amir he is our national hero and both Feryal and His parents should just calm down and being younger of the two Feryal should be more understanding.
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fatima Dec 14, 2016 11:30am
Sensible.
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Omar Dec 14, 2016 11:37am
Feel sorry for your Aamir and I can understand it very well. Some things needs to stay within the boundary of the house and both parties (wife and parents) are at fault. To Faryal and Aamir parents, you have a very good husband & a son, please dont loose him and come up with some understanding. The world need people like your son and you all should be lucky to have him in your like. Love from Pakistan
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analyses Dec 14, 2016 11:44am
Well said mate. This is the exact situation wives and mothers and sisters put a man into. They need to realize that they are losing the man who both sides want.
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Ali Dec 14, 2016 11:57am
Thats which should have been told the very first day. Anyways never too late we still love you Amir.
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hammad Dec 14, 2016 11:59am
I don't know much about him personally but I truly respect this guy.
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kanwarch Dec 14, 2016 12:07pm
Sad story and poor Amir khan. Wife should not have brought this to public and should have sorted out in private.
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Riz Dec 14, 2016 12:12pm
Amir bro you don't deserve all this I think you best of hold on to it and have patience.
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Amer Dec 14, 2016 12:14pm
That's how you handle it ! Truly earned my respect Mr. Khan... lots of love !
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zebswati Dec 14, 2016 12:23pm
Every One Please Support Amir .
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Karachi Wala Dec 14, 2016 12:30pm
I really feel sorry for Amir Khan - a great boxer, generous philintherapist and humble personality. None other than his own family has put his name down...
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A ShAh Dec 14, 2016 12:32pm
Waiting for the news of the break up.
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immo Dec 14, 2016 12:39pm
she was a nobody before Khan married her and now she is using her newly found fame to get attention thats just wrong family disputes are to be resolved in private not on Jerry Springer shows
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yawar abdul rehman Dec 14, 2016 12:39pm
so as it says, 40% men are the victims of domestic violence
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Samad Chaudhry London Dec 14, 2016 12:47pm
Trying creating understanding and compromise. Parents should also understand their siblings are not children any more and try respecting their decisions. Harmony and love will solve all problems.
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kranti Dec 14, 2016 12:52pm
Mr.Amir Khan, you'll lose lot of money in that bargain too...
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A Man Dec 14, 2016 12:52pm
Even a champion boxer is helpless in this situation. He is stuck with a gold digger. Leaving her sooner than later is best for you Amir. You are going to lose a lot of your wealth regardless but at least that will save your well earned respect. She is not the wife material bro.
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Issah Dec 14, 2016 12:59pm
Plebs
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asif Dec 14, 2016 01:23pm
It was a front page story here in UK and the comments, well, I feel for Amir.
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Tariq Dec 14, 2016 01:46pm
Mrs. Amir should avoid family matters in media. Should apologies and trust her husband. Bashing her husband family not going to solve her marital life problems.
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Feroze Danish Dec 14, 2016 01:46pm
Its obvious, they are playing a drama here !
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Uzma Dec 14, 2016 01:50pm
Best wishes for Aamir
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Talha Dec 14, 2016 02:11pm
AK you are our hero man. The focus of AK and everyone around him including his wife and his family should only be boxing and charity and nothing else.
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Muhammad Dec 14, 2016 02:33pm
Poor AAMIR, stuck in between saas Bahu issue, sensible approach from Mr khan....
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FraNk Dec 14, 2016 02:50pm
Amir ,settle it peacefully after discussion with both parties (wife and parents).
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Adnan Dec 14, 2016 02:52pm
We support you Aamir. Just spend sometime with wife and parents separately and tell them to remain in limits in firm manner. Everything will be fine
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Srehman Dec 14, 2016 03:05pm
Amir only you can sort it out,just put your foot down very firmly on your wife's behaviour because whatever the complaints ,nothing should be braught in public it will never sort anything out,and also tell your parents too to stop all this nonsense and stop being so insecure ,I feel sorry when men get stuck between their parents and wife ,but a strong man CAN sort it out by laying down strong boundaries for both parties
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Jazzy Dec 14, 2016 03:23pm
One hear story like these about the Pakistani family's live in Pakistan or abroad all the time.Women always get rough deal and always get blamed for marriage failures.Pakistanis are confused people with plenty of contradictions and double standards.I am talking from my personal experience regarding my close relative.Even after living in Europe for long time hasn't made any difference but are more confused on the contrary.
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Amer Rao Dec 14, 2016 03:40pm
We are with you Amir, stay strong.
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NWA Dec 14, 2016 03:51pm
It is too late.
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KARAM ALI SHAH Dec 14, 2016 03:53pm
Amir bai it is so surpising for us ... as a great and glamorous personality you have need to solve the familiy base issue at home and it must be confined up to you and your family members. one thing that i want to add is that your wife must be cool and mature bcoz she is the family member of you.
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Farjee Dec 14, 2016 04:09pm
Life of a married man ....
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arshad Kaleem Dec 14, 2016 04:13pm
Sir, we all wish you and Bhabhi a happy life.May ur families solve this issue privately at the hi me and u keep the flag of Boxing and country high.....ameen
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Sania Dec 14, 2016 05:05pm
Faryal shouldnt share their personal problems on twitter or snapchat. Family disputes should be solve in home not to make a tamasha.
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Just me Dec 14, 2016 05:10pm
This is a typical story of most of us, specially if your wife is smart. Advice for Amir, take it easy This will be all over, all you need to do control your own emotions.
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kanwarch Dec 14, 2016 05:23pm
@Jazzy They are not confused but helpless to enforce the values dear to them on their children. Nobody is at fault but that is the truth. All western values are not good and there is no shame in standing up for right values. Unfortunately for the parents it is the wrong place to do that. This is the price parents pay for migrating to different countries with different values.
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KB Dec 14, 2016 06:12pm
This is what happen when get into too much of social media
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MOTH Dec 14, 2016 07:10pm
Cool down for the sake of your child. Do not let your families (both sides) to intervene in your life. Be a strong husband and be a strong wife. Remain committed for your child and for a good image.
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Dr. Habib Dec 14, 2016 07:16pm
All the educated married men in Pakistan are facing this issue. I strongly believe this is the reason behind our success as a Nation. After marriage all the men are so stressed because of this issue and they loose interest in their professions and just becomes an earning machine. How can our nation progress if all of us will not work to our full potential? Question needs to be asked?
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Muhammed Ali Dec 14, 2016 08:28pm
No man or woman should forget their roots, this is what happens when they do.
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Tabbasum Dec 14, 2016 08:53pm
Parents pulling your one hand & wife pulling other, this is the tug of war between two families, only money is the problem. Solve this problem your marriage is safe.
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Abraham Haque Dec 14, 2016 09:06pm
@immo he was noboy before he became boxer and neither was most of his family
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Saima Dec 14, 2016 09:44pm
Better late than never. Although, this message should have come long before. It's not clever to wash your dirty laundry in public. This is no excuse Faryal, to put your husband's family in disgrace .......
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A brave man Dec 14, 2016 09:47pm
well done Mr. khan
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Ali Dec 14, 2016 10:01pm
when you make public statements about private life, you let the situation out of your control. Sadly, I do not see any chances of happiness in their family now. Still praying and hoping the best for them. My parents have been living with me for 2 years in US. First year was very tough and we have had times where my wife's patience was tested but we got through it. I know it is a constant struggle but with the presence of my parents, millions of dollars can not offer what they do to my kids. so there is a huge reward if wife stays patient, husband stays supportive of wife and help wife and parents understand each other which can be slow and painful process.
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jAVed siddiqui Dec 14, 2016 10:42pm
Amir Khan, you should tell your wife to keep family matters inside the house. Your parents are elders and deserve the respect from both you and your wife.
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Salma Dec 15, 2016 12:01am
@Ahmed Actually it's the elders in a family that set examples through their own actions and patience. That's why they r called the elders in a family. They r meant to support the young couple who just got married. Young people make mistakes because they r young and inexperienced. What's the point of having parents who r behaving in such a manner. Also... Amir seems happy and proud of his glamorous wife. He wouldn't have married her if he wanted a woman in hijab
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Salma Dec 15, 2016 12:03am
@A Man She's the mother of his child.
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Mujtaba Dec 15, 2016 12:22am
Whatever you're today is because of your parents, and whatever your wife today is because of you. But u know what actually happened. Do justice to both of them as you're answerable for both.
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Non conformist Dec 15, 2016 12:24am
@A ShAh please be sensible
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Shaheen Dec 15, 2016 01:23am
I am amazed that she thinks people give their hard earned money to the foundation because of her. Let me lighten up ur world miss faryal. foundation would flourish even without you. you have done nothing but damage.
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Javed Dec 15, 2016 02:12am
This is an expected situation in examples where young people do not let their parents to vet the prospective spouse.
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Javed Dec 15, 2016 02:16am
Dear Amir, when push comes to shove, who do you choose, your mother or your childs mother?
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Imran HANIF Dec 15, 2016 06:49am
Someone should question the parents about why they became so concerned all of a sudden and why they want to spoil their son's happiness and why the heated arguments led to this nasty situation? Anyway, the damage is already done and immediate measures are needed to avoid exasperating of situation. Things can still be sorted and the matter closed. Parents need to understand they can't just impose the restrictions and start hitting out at someone just like that.
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Boxer Dec 15, 2016 08:29am
@Talha Doing charity is at his own discretion man!
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Mustufa Dec 15, 2016 08:46am
what you reap is what you sow. If you did bad things in the past, you will get bad results in the future. If you did good things in the past, you will get good results in the future.
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Saad Razzaq Dec 15, 2016 08:50am
His parents and family is at fault. He is having a sincere wife who is having a good heart but his family is taking her for a ride. It's time for AK to leave his evil family and move away with his wife
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Saad Razzaq Dec 15, 2016 08:52am
@ A MAN - do you know his wife personally? How can you just point the finger on a girl who is suffering by the hands of her in-laws. It's high time that we support our daughters to stand up for their rights and stop putting things under the carpet for fake dignity (izzat)
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kumar Dec 15, 2016 10:28am
it is family matter, shouldn't bring in media.
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Arif Dec 15, 2016 10:42am
I feel sorry for Amir. I don't get one thing. First we marry a modern girl and then expect her to start wearing hijab and obey everything that the family expects from her. First of, if you want a wife who wear modest cloths and wear hijab then don't force someone to do that, choose a girl that is already practicing that. Secondly, girls when getting married must understand that she is not marrying the guy but the family as a whole.
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Arif Dec 15, 2016 10:43am
@Jazzy speak for yourself my pal!
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ak Dec 15, 2016 11:17am
Name of a hard working man being dragged in the dirt for a family drama. Typical story, wife too mod, family a bit old school, only difference being that he is famous.
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nasir askar Dec 15, 2016 11:43am
Family matters should be settled within the boundary walls of your home and not on snapchat or conferences. After marriage, some compromises are to be made and if not made always result in splits
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asif iffy Dec 15, 2016 11:46am
Both parties should calm down. They should resolve their disputes in private and not let the media circus have a hey day. That's the reason I never talk to the media.
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Zunny Dec 15, 2016 05:13pm
If the parents were happy for their son to get married to the one he loved and accepted her for her then and her way of dressing why cause trouble for her son and wife the mum should stop Listening to negative people and be happy for both of them as the son is caught up in the middle , the mother in law shud remember that she too has daughter n what goes around comes around, so appreciate you daughter in law n stay away from negative mother in law's who play games with their sons lives as u no u r wrong in your head but it will hit you hard , live man and wife alone and let them live their life, amir should have a responsibility as a son and a husband and father.
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Noori Dec 15, 2016 07:25pm
Man should handle this situation like a man,Amir s mom was the one who went to media and gave interview,you let your son getting married to a model now criticizing her clothing -come on,and Faryal should consider these matters before getting married to Amir s family,most of the time we think we will change the person or situation after getting married here we sign up for a failure.One can not change any one who is adult mature.He should take some mature steps,talk to his wife and mom put them in their right places.He has a baby girl,if he will do some unjustification to his wife,this is not good for his own daughter.His mom should realize her son has a family now,stop being over possessive and act accordi to her age!
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