'Why are girls always blamed for divorce?' Pop star Annie hits back at haters

"I had to speak up not just for myself but for all the girls out there who have been divorced," said the singer

10 Oct, 2016

Pop star Annie Khalid gave haters on Instagram some well-deserved verbal thrashing for shaming her for her second marriage.

The 'Mahiya' singer had uploaded photos of her wedding with husband Saad Ahmed Khan last week in celebration of their one-year wedding anniversary.

According to the singer's latest post, some of her followers "abused [her] for [her] second marriage" with comments like "how many times you gonna get married", "kitni dafa shadi karo gi", "maneater", "vulgar woman" and "wahiyaat aurat".

So I'm writing this post with tears in my eyes because I am sick and tired of the abuse I get on social media for my second marriage. YES I married AGAIN! Why do people write " how many times you gonna get married" "kitni dafa shadi karo gi" "maneater" "vulgar woman" "wahiyaat aurat" What sin have I committed? Our religion permits us to marry again after being divorced, our beautiful Hazrat Khadijah was married 3 times, her third marriage was to Prophet Muhammad PBUH. Who is better than her? Who is better than Our beloved Prophet Muhammad PBUH? NOBODY. What bullshit Pakistani culture we have where divorcee women are scandalised and stigmatised in our society. They become "black sheep" or "damaged goods". At the time of the Sahaba, men would stand in line to marry divorced women because they knew of the immense reward it was in the eyes of God. But in our day & age we are instead ostracised and looked down upon. You men who comment under my posts have some shame, nobody wants their marriage to break, but if it does then what can you do? Would you be happier to see me alone and unhappy? Would that make you happy? What hurts the most is seeing women say horrible things too. I would expect girls to be more empathetic and understanding but how SAD that you also hurt me with your brutal comments. Remember, this could happen to your mother or your sister, this could even happen to YOU. I am sorry for this long post but I had to speak up not just for myself but for all the girls out there who have been divorced. Can I also add how I always read that it must have been My FAULT, something bad I must have done got me divorced. Why is the girl always blamed, WHY? Thank you to my husband Saad who married me knowing my past and not once brought it up or used it against me. Instead loves me unconditionally for who I am and not what I am. Ok I feel better now. Peace

A photo posted by Annie Khalid (@anniecurli) on Oct 8, 2016 at 6:41am PDT

Saying that she's speaking up for "all the girls out there who have been divorced," Annie wrote a long post on Instagram that first gave her abusers some religious context:

"Our religion permits us to marry again after being divorced, our beautiful Hazrat Khadijah was married 3 times, her third marriage was to Prophet Muhammad PBUH. Who is better than her? Who is better than Our beloved Prophet Muhammad PBUH? NOBODY."

"At the time of the Sahaba, men would stand in line to marry divorced women because they knew of the immense reward it was in the eyes of God. But in our day & age we are instead ostracised and looked down upon."

She also called out her abusers for lacking in humanity:

"Nobody wants their marriage to break, but if it does then what can you do? Would you be happier to see me alone and unhappy? Would that make you happy? What hurts the most is seeing women say horrible things too. I would expect girls to be more empathetic and understanding but how SAD that you also hurt me with your brutal comments."

Glad you spoke up, Annie!