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‘Saris were only for married women’: Mushk Kaleem says she wasn’t allowed to wear a saari growing up

‘Saris were only for married women’: Mushk Kaleem says she wasn’t allowed to wear a saari growing up

The model looked back on her younger self who felt excluded at events for not following the dress code.
15 Aug, 2022

Saris solely being the domain of married women is a common misconception that has been floating around for a while, limiting single women from draping the elegant garment. Model Mushk Kaleem is among many who went through this and some still go through this. She revealed that she wasn’t allowed to wear a sari growing up, which made her feel like an outsider.

On Sunday, she posted a black and white photo of herself in a sari, sharing the flashback that took her to her younger self. “Story time: I wasn’t allowed to wear saris — never wore them to any of my farewells. My mum said saris were only for married women. It’s something I would argue about so much because I would always feel like a fish out of water at these events — all my friends in their gorgeous colourful saris and then me, not following the dress code, feeling miserable. So much so, I wouldn’t even get photos taken. I remember I wouldn’t partake in any conversation regarding the farewell prep. I wouldn’t be excited,” she wrote.

Reflecting on the matter deeply, she pinpointed the reason it impacted her so much. “I guess it wasn’t that I wanted to wear a sari, it’s that I just wanted to avoid feeling like I didn’t belong.” She said the photo took her back to her 15-year-old self in 2010, “standing in the Pochaji hall of Mama Parsi”.

Though it may seem like a trivial issue to some, it is actually a big deal to many. It all comes down to restricting someone’s personal autonomy. Let women wear what they want — it’s as simple as that. The fact of the matter is, saris are iconic and all women who want to wear them should rock them as they please.

Comments

Dr. Salaria, Aamir Ahmad Aug 15, 2022 03:14pm
Down centuries old history lanes, "Sarees" in white color were meant to be worn by the depressed, oppressed, subjugated and suppressed "Shudra" and "Daleet" Indian women, ready to be burnt alive after the death of their husbands, under a religious practice called "Satti," which unfortunately, is still practiced widely but diligently all over the biggest false, feign, sham, shame, frail, feeble, feint and fake democracy of the world called India.
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Sana Aug 15, 2022 03:33pm
So parents do not have a role whatsoever in upbringing of their child. !!? I cannot fathom what is up with all the independence this lot needs. Why do we then look towards our parents in time of any need. Independent to dress and party.. dependent otherwise.
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Neeraj Aug 15, 2022 03:47pm
@Dr. Salaria, Aamir Ahmad you have no clue but you are claiming to be expert on matter
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Ahmad Aug 15, 2022 04:14pm
Saree is one of the most elegant dress.
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Tanvir Khan Aug 15, 2022 04:46pm
Unstitched clothing like sarees and dhotis are an integral feature of the entire subcontinental ancient history. Shalwar is till today the garb of nomadic Kurds!
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Bunny Aug 15, 2022 04:53pm
The most graceful of all attire for women curvy or straight. the pleats and the folds do the talking .
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Joe Aug 15, 2022 04:57pm
@Dr. Salaria, Aamir Ahmad People with limited knowledge always expose themselves with their tunnel vision of thinking. "white saree is also carried by women in India during occasions like festivals, pujas, and marriages, etc. That being said to bring peace, wealth and prosperity to the family "
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Secular Aug 15, 2022 04:59pm
@Dr. Salaria, Aamir Ahmad if you do not know then do not write. You are a ignorant fellow trying to spread propaganda information.
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Irshad Tyabjee Aug 15, 2022 07:04pm
Dr. Salaria, I don't know where you are coming from, but the Sari is most common garment worn in India, and it ia not restricted to any caste or creed nor marital status. Maybe you should read more info on Wikipedia, and get more pertinent information, and concern yourself less with stereotypes.
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Bunny Aug 15, 2022 07:10pm
@Dr. Salaria, Aamir Ahmad if you watch old Pak movies of 60s and 70s many heroines like Shabnum , Zeba brought grace to the sarees .
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SU Aug 15, 2022 07:52pm
@Dr. Salaria, Aamir Ahmad don’t spread false and hatred laced knowledge.
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Syed Hasni Aug 15, 2022 08:38pm
To the all young girls who want to wear it Just say I'm sari. No Problem.
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SU Aug 15, 2022 08:49pm
Salaria is a petty uneducated hate monger. He contributes nothing of value for knowledge or debate.
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PakSwine Aug 15, 2022 09:06pm
@Dr. Salaria, Aamir Ahmad Wow!
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monamamu Aug 15, 2022 09:46pm
Oh my bleeding heart. Wearing a sari is so important when millions don't even have enough to feed themselves.
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M. Emad Aug 15, 2022 10:18pm
'Sari' traditional & national dress (of women) in India & Bangladesh.
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