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Juvaria Abbasi talks about the liberating experience of being a single mother

Juvaria Abbasi talks about the liberating experience of being a single mother

"I earn well, my lifestyle is decent, I have a child. Whatever I earn, I can Alhamdulillah give her a great life," she said.
29 Apr, 2021

After mesmerising audiences with her strong supporting roles, Juvaria Abbasi recently opened up about what it is like to be a single mother working in the entertainment industry in Pakistan.

In an interview with Fuschia Magazine, the Raqs e Bismil actor spoke about the experience of raising her daughter single-handedly, shattering the stereotype that single mothers always go through challenging situations and are unable to raise a child alone.

"Why does everyone say being a single mother is difficult? It is fun. It's such an exciting thing," Abbasi said.

"Just because we live in a society that believes you need a husband and that a man will raise a child, we think like this. Otherwise, what's the need? I'm an actress, I earn well, I live in a good place, my lifestyle is decent, I have a child. Whatever I earn, I can Alhamdulillah give my child a great life. I don't need a man," she said.

Talking about her daughter, she then reaffirmed her stance. "And I did raise her well. I have an amazing daughter Ma Sha Allah, she's beautiful, she's working, I'm so happy that she's a well educated girl. What else do you want in life?" Abbasi asked, saying that she knows how she raised her child, how she has turned out, and thinks she's perfectly fine. "I couldn't have done better than this. This was my best."

She then encouraged women around her to look at the brighter side of leaving an ugly relationship.

"Stop crying about being single. God forbid I'm not saying that you shouldn't get married, or you should get separated from your spouse. But if such an unfortunate event has happened and just in case you're there, live your life. Allah has given you a chance to leave a toxic relationship and build one with yourself," she said.

"We build a relationship with our parents, siblings, spouses, children but never with ourselves. When a person finds their true self, understands themselves, life becomes much easier," Abbasi said.

The actor was married to actor and director Shamoon Abbasi, who then married and divorced Humaima Malik. The pair separated in 2007 and have a daughter Anzela Abbasi, who lives with her mother.

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Pirah Apr 29, 2021 01:40pm
Well said that we always focus on building relationship with everyone but not with ourselves! Wise
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Chrís Dăn Apr 29, 2021 02:32pm
Definitely,in her,one can see a lady with immense self respect.
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Arshad Apr 29, 2021 02:38pm
The problem is not raising alone, the problem is not letting the father meet their children.
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Yasir Apr 29, 2021 03:18pm
Broken her family and now she’s proud?
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Haseeb Apr 29, 2021 03:52pm
"liberating experience"? This is such a wrong projection. What is "liberating" in getting a divorce? Rising divorces are a matter of outright concern and ought to be a subject of earnest deliberations as to why these things are happening. Why is the cost of separation becoming lower than that of compromising? Why has separation become so easy? Why is media highlighting the bizarre views of a person who thinks that a daughter can do well without her father looking her after? I agree there is no point in cleaving to a toxic relationship. But the debate should be on questions like as to why relationships are getting toxic, instead of touting divorce as a "liberating experience". Why have people started to disparage the sanctity of nikah? Why nikah, which is supposed to be the most beautiful of all contracts, is getting scrapped so easily? Rising divorces and increasing toxic relationships -- both are bad. And the solution to latter does not definitely lie in the former!
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Love8 Apr 29, 2021 04:29pm
That's cool but take care of your kids well they need both parents man and woman. Luke 14_Forsake all, everyone, and yourself for J Luke 16_Work for J not payments, then He will give you and your family the food and clothing if they follow too Matthew_25 & Luke_12 & 6 Sell everything and give to poor asap and keep your giving in secret Mark_16 & John_17 Share the Truth to everyone working with others in love and peace Revelation_13+14 Don't take mark of the beast right hand or forehead only way to buy or sell *not vaccine or mask, but maybe implant or quantum technology Revelation_17+18 U.S may be the Babylon to be destroyed in one hour, with fire
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Jigen Apr 29, 2021 05:05pm
You must already be rich to say this. For a normal single mother life is very difficult. Not just is Pakistan but around the world. A child needs a father figure too.
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Hamid Apr 29, 2021 05:52pm
"I don't need a man". Very offensive.
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well-wisher Apr 29, 2021 07:03pm
You did well as a single mother. Any help from the ex-? PK mind sets about single parent has to change. Time will do it. Society must accept this fact of life. Kook after yourselves well and stay safe.
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Nayyar Rashid Apr 29, 2021 07:14pm
Juvaria Abbasi is what happens to a woman when she is not restricted to one man
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raheel Apr 29, 2021 11:48pm
Wonder if the child will ever know her father. The mother thinks this is liberating but that for her..he will be problematic in the long term for any child to grow up without the real father around to guide and love the child.
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Anonymouseee Apr 30, 2021 10:57am
Divorce has become a fashion to women now. We only follow the bad examples from the west.
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M. Saeed Apr 30, 2021 01:27pm
Talaak is a word which was never even used in general discussions about a few decades back. Now, it has become a part of the imported fashion.
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Flavian Rego May 02, 2021 05:21am
Kudos to the interviewer. Her questions were pertinent and to the point. Result : A totally relaxed, frank and intimate response from the responder, who had no hang ups or regrets about the direction her life has taken. She is an inspiration for all. Thank you Dawn.
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