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Asma Aziz's dancing video does not justify her being tortured: Sanam Saeed

Sanam defended Asma after people justified the torture inflicted upon her following the leak of her dance video

02 Apr, 2019

Following the furor over Asma Aziz's dancing video which was leaked last week on social media, Sanam Saeed has something to say.

The Cake star tweeted in defense of the woman after people victim-blamed her and justified her husband's torture and ill-treatment after the video went viral.

"It's like saying if a prostitute was raped it's her fault anyway. When will some of you really understand the meaning of consent? An old leaked video of Asma Aziz dancing does not justify her being tortured for refusing to dance when she doesn't feel like it. Have mercy!" she wrote.

Last week Lahore arrested two men on allegations that they had tortured and abused a woman.

In a video circulating on social media, Asma said Faisal (her husband) "took my clothes off in front of his employees [domestic staff]. The employees held me as he shaved my hair off and burned it. My clothes were bloody. I was bound by a pipe and hung from the fan. He threatened to hang me naked."

The case quickly captured attention on social media, with prominent personalities including Shireen Mazari condemning the incident and calling for justice to be served.

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HashBrown® Apr 02, 2019 04:03pm

Sanam Saeed is awesome. I could spend all day looking at her.

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Najma Hisham Apr 02, 2019 04:06pm

shocking! Husband from hell!

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Crazy Kid Apr 02, 2019 04:47pm

Oh dear! I wasn't expecting Sanam to use very poor choice of words to defend Asma Aziz. Don't get me wrong, I second what Sanam is saying and I completely support that no matter what Asma has done in her life doesn't warrant such torture & character assassination on top. Sanam just used wrong words to support the poor lady

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SK Apr 02, 2019 05:03pm

Is anyone actually saying that the low-life was in any way justified in committing the ghastly crime against a woman? I hope not.

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Asad Apr 02, 2019 05:04pm

Great view, video going viral to show the character of the lady which is unacceptable in islamic society, that is it.

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RAHMAN SHAIKH Apr 02, 2019 05:16pm

It is different to dance in friends' company ( many women do ) and entirely different to dance for domestic staff. She had every right to refuse.

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King Akbar Apr 02, 2019 06:02pm

That is not the analogy she should have made , nevertheless, I am disappointed in Pakistani culture more than I have ever been.

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Waseem Apr 02, 2019 06:12pm

100% agreed with Sanam. Dancing or not could be a discussion point but forcing somebody to do something is bad. And torturing in any capacity is a plain crime that must be dealt with.

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fairplay Apr 02, 2019 06:28pm

There is no justification, excuse, explanation, or euphemism for the husband's conduct, period. Any men offering explanations should shut up now.

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Alam Apr 02, 2019 06:47pm

These dances do not certify that Asma is a bad person or she was not tortured ! Critics should look into their own homes and she who is doing what ! Girls were forced to do more vulgar dances on TV in Sahir Lodiis show !

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Alam Apr 02, 2019 06:48pm

Bravo. Sanam !

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Seedoo Apr 02, 2019 06:49pm

Completely agree with the author. We have a terrible mindset.

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Favad Qaisar Apr 02, 2019 06:51pm

She's spot on

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Alam Apr 02, 2019 06:57pm

It is the worst strategy men take to malign a woman’s character to justify their creulty and injustices !

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Ashley Kenneth Caldeira Apr 02, 2019 07:28pm

Once a Girl says " No" it means " No"

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Sayyar Khan Apr 02, 2019 07:45pm

Sick minded society need mental help.

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ahmed Apr 02, 2019 07:58pm

Where are the other Sanams of PK to speak for Asma?

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Ziyan Apr 02, 2019 07:58pm

In her police brief she herself told that she was forced to dance by her husband, but in video people can themselves judge whether she was dancing by force or by her will.... and by the way prostitute is prostitute you cannot justify wrong doings on the basis of economic hardship.

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Syed Ahmed Apr 02, 2019 08:08pm

O come on rape is rape do u understand, if someone forces u is mean ?

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hanifsmile Apr 02, 2019 08:20pm

its not about justification, its about choices you make in life. What happened to her was definitely wrong, no can justify that and people should be punished, but she had more chances of getting this abuse because of the crowed she was moving in .

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Sajjad Apr 02, 2019 08:39pm

Sick men and their mentality

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Saad Apr 02, 2019 08:53pm

I saw her dance video leaked on YouTube. There is nothing wrong in it, most of our girls dance this way in weddings and other such occasions and they are all treated respectfully. Moreover, even if the dance is vulgar or disrespectful that doesn’t mean that a person is treated so brutally. Nothing can justify the deed of her husband and he should be punished so severely that it sets the example for others.

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zane Apr 02, 2019 09:01pm

I totally agree with Sanam. People in pakistan which is a male dominant society needs to understand about consent. Anything other than a consent is a CRIME!

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N_Saq Apr 02, 2019 09:35pm

I am stumped. Speechless and feel ashamed as a man! If educated people are saying something like that then what do you expect from the uneducated. No wonder why people torture animals in Pak because they don't think animals are living beings just like humans that can hear, see, feel pain etc. The reality is that all these people probably also beat up/torture their wives and now are afraid that it will be their turn next. In my opinion, all those who are siding with the (barbaric) accused should be caught prosecuted and penalized (wouldn't the be a day). Pak is a patriarchal society and as women are gaining/claiming their rights, it is making men nervous so they are doing everything possible to save one of their own kind.

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Chooran Man Apr 02, 2019 09:56pm

You are right but please keep in mind, when a bunch of individuals are taking drugs and are not in senses, then such risk exists!! You cannot blame the men, either!

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AK Apr 02, 2019 10:00pm

There is no excuse and rationale for the torture. This behavior should be condemned and punished.

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nadeem khan Apr 02, 2019 10:07pm

Is she the background singer from coke studio?

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Khurram Apr 02, 2019 10:19pm

Blame the victim. And then figure out why society has deteriorated so much. Great.

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NewBorn Apr 02, 2019 10:38pm

Miss Saeed is not completely right here. What happened was illegal; but drugs and alcohol lifestyle would lead you there. One cannot put one's hand in fire, and expect not to be burned.

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Basharat Qamar Apr 02, 2019 10:46pm

Her husband had no right to treat her like that. It is cruel and barbaric. If he is let go, then this will set yet another example of how our society treats the vulnerable and weak segments of our society and women usually top this list.

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Rp Apr 02, 2019 11:19pm

The entire Azima episode depicts our society's thinking that a woman is a man's property which he can use any which way he pleases. When our thinking is stuck at such low levels, the concept of consent becomes superfluous. Having said that I agree with Sanam Saeed but her comparison of Azima episode with a prostitute being raped is an extreme itself as it directs Azima's image towards the lowest perceived social position of a helpless woman.

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Zak Apr 03, 2019 12:07am

No justification for violence on anyone, let alone a wife. Hope the dup criminals go to jail for 10 years minimum. Asma partying is irrelevant and no one cares.

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RationalBabu Apr 03, 2019 01:16am

@Asad, so dancing and showing joy is not acceptable in your ideal society?

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Hira Apr 03, 2019 02:43am

@Ziyan Okay this is harsh, but let me make a point here. I think your comment is evil and horrible. Is it okay for me to torture you?

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Omair Apr 03, 2019 03:30am

We need more outspoken women like her. Stop blaming the victims!

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Juned Apr 03, 2019 04:06am

@ahmed what does that has anything to do with Asma.

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illawarrior Apr 03, 2019 05:04am

@Crazy Kid No, she did not. The chosen words were very apt. Just because someone has done something before does not negate their right to subsequently refuse. A prostitute might agree to sex 999 times, but refuse the 1000th time. It would still be rape if she was forced after that refusal.

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Laila Apr 03, 2019 05:16am

@Chooran Man "You cannot blame the men either"??? Ummm yes you can. ONLY the men are to blame. I don't care even if she is a professional dancer, druggie or whatever. You can not force anyone to do something they don't want. Even a pro danced has the right to say NO. Do you know what NO means? Sanams analogy is spot on. This is what she was trying to say.

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Laila Apr 03, 2019 05:18am

@NewBorn So you are victim blaming! Shame. Don't you get it? It doesn't matter what she was wearing kr doing. She didn't Wang to and was forced, beaten , shaven and stripped. THAT is not OK. NO buts or ifs.

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Laila Apr 03, 2019 05:22am

@Ziyan I don't think you understand the words you write or their meaning. NO means NO. A person can be doing something one minute and then not want to do it the next minute. Stop victim blaming.

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Laila Apr 03, 2019 05:27am

@Crazy Kid Not really poor choice is words. It's apt. The analogy is spot on. Even a prostitute has the right to say NO. Even a stripper or mujra dancer has the right to say NO. Prole are already assuming that this poor woman brought this on herself because oh look drugs, dancing, has company etc. It's blue if a promiscuous girl says no to one guy, and he rapes her. It's not OK. She said NO. I think we as a society have so much to learn about consent.

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Akil Akhtar Apr 03, 2019 06:59am

Some men in Pakistan need to be categoried as animals and probably put in cages......

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Alam Apr 03, 2019 07:41am

@Asad and nobody talks about low life men in the video ?

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Alam Apr 03, 2019 07:47am

I saw the honorable men in the video and had character women in the video ! If men dances it’s ok and if women dances then she is a prostitute !

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Arshad Apr 03, 2019 08:30am

@hanifsmile what do you know about the crowd she was moving in? Just because people are partying means they are not the right crowd?!!!

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Arshad Apr 03, 2019 08:32am

@Asad it is a very common tactic - deflect real issues by maligning a woman's character.

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Arshad Apr 03, 2019 08:37am

@Ziyan such a pity at your thinking. Do you know how much human trafficking happens and how little girls are often sold and forced into prostitution? Try not to sit on a high horse making moral proclamations when you have not faced the heartbreaking realities the others have. Do you know of little boys and young men who get forced into prostitution and what horrors they have to endure? How can people like you ever justify violence against a weaker person in this way. You are implying that it is ok to rape a prostitute? You are saying it was ok for Asma to have been beaten just because some other day she had danced on some party?

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Arshad Apr 03, 2019 08:40am

@Chooran Man haha! So if people take drugs and stab or murder each other....its all ok. Noone is culpable!!! Hope you are not part of the legal system.

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Dev Apr 03, 2019 09:16am

dont let women dance. only bachha baazi boys for ghazis of islam

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Nasir Askar Apr 03, 2019 02:36pm

@Crazy Kid you stole my words. Bad choice of words from the celebrity.

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Moth Apr 03, 2019 05:31pm

Billion dollar entertaining industry - job creation - gdp growth - tipping point. Husband did bad. Do not see any issues with that dance video. Issue is the society and unnessary morals - big hurdle to economic development. The media has to play a positive role in gdp growth and job creation. Sanam Saeed amazing personality with lot of potentials. Respect and great wishes from abroad. Only one question. The wording choice is not good.

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NK Apr 03, 2019 11:21pm

@Akil Akhtar Every person has an animal in thyself. If you can tame it, it will remain calm. if not, it will go berserk.

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Amna Nabi Apr 04, 2019 05:45am

@Crazy Kid Can you chose BETTER words or meaning full way or appropriate approach to convey her message . Also, be specific regarding her choices of WORDS. Is it tone, tenor, modality or Vocabulary? Waiting to know !

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Asad Apr 04, 2019 12:24pm

@Alam It is difficult to take out one as acceptable when both are on wrong side.

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Asad Apr 04, 2019 12:26pm

@Arshad When one crime is bigger than other, does not make smaller crime as no crime.

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