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A claim of harassment stirs debate, draws Sharmeen Obaid Chinoy into focus

A claim of harassment stirs debate, draws Sharmeen Obaid Chinoy into focus

Since her tweets about an incident with her sister at AKUH, Sharmeen is facing considerable backlash on social media.
Updated 27 Oct, 2017

Earlier this week, Pakistani filmmaker Sharmeen Obaid-Chinoy shared on Twitter that her sister "went to AKU emergency [and] the doctor who tended to her tried [to] add her on [Facebook]".

In her initial tweet, Sharmeen termed the incident a breach of boundaries. By her third, she had summed up the incident as "harassment".

In her tweets, Sharmeen also said that she's taken action against the doctor. By this morning, social media was abuzz with the rumour that the concerned doctor has been fired by the Aga Khan University Hospital.

AKUH is refraining from confirming or denying the rumour, saying: "The Aga Khan University Hospital always maintains the highest standards of confidentiality and will not release any information on either employees or patients." Meanwhile, unconfirmed reports continue to claim that the doctor has been let go.

Since her tweets about the incident, Sharmeen is facing considerable backlash on social media.

Reactions range from public figure Ali Moeen Nawazish's belief that Sharmeen has trivialised the ordeal of real victims of harassment by calling a Facebook friend request "harassment" — to a post from the concerned doctor's colleague who implies that Sharmeen abused her power as a celebrity to bring about the doctor's termination.

There have been many more remarks in between about whether a Facebook friend request constitutes harassment and whether the doctor's punishment was excessive, but what's important to highlight here is the understanding that AKUH as an organisation has a right to relieve its employees if their actions are found in violation of the organisational code of conduct.

A doctor-patient relationship is governed by a set of ethics regarding personal interaction and use of confidential information. If these ethics are breached — by using personal information to locate someone on social media, for example — it is perfectly justifiable for action to be taken irrespective of sympathy-garnering factoids like the concerned doctor was "a father of four".

Many commentators have also reminded naysayers that as a general rule (and especially in Pakistan, where personal boundaries are routinely infringed upon and harassment is a major issue) it is not up to the accused/perpetrator to determine what constitutes acceptable behaviour or not — that right belongs to the accuser/victim.

What's perhaps more problematic about the conversation surrounding the incident is Sharmeen's own implication that she will use her family credentials to resolve the issue.

This is contradictory to Sharmeen's own body of work that serves to equalise the justice system. Her documentaries like Saving Face and A Girl In The River have sought to make legal recourse easier for victims of violence irrespective of their class privileges.

Her tone in her tweets undercuts the intent of her work and the motive of her complaint — and that tone, rather than her highlighting of inappropriate conduct, is probably the only issue up for debate here.

Comments

Riz Oct 27, 2017 07:20pm
Very sad on her behaviour.
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CONcerned Oct 27, 2017 07:33pm
In pakistan there are two types of people.. the actual victims and the others who are pretending or implying to be victims and wealthy class wins.
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IRfan Oct 27, 2017 07:43pm
Hypocrisy of desi women, these women want free society, equal rights, equal treatment, Feminism, intermingling and all, but same time ofended by or harassed by only one Friend Request, may be because its from 'na-muhram', dear sister, its just a request in the end, which can be ignored easily or declined or even can be reported to Facebook, seriously why calling for such a vvip treatment.
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yasir Oct 27, 2017 07:45pm
Congratulations! You have a new story. Lets see if you can bag another Emmy. This one is for the family. -
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Saleem Oct 27, 2017 07:47pm
How is it possible that an accomplished Female in Pakistan cannot be dragged in controversy. It was just a matter of time. It’s a mega issue in our society: too male chauvinist and militaristic thinking has been imbedded. Reality seems to be to stark to face that females have functioning Brains same a males.
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Imajes Oct 27, 2017 08:18pm
Sharmeen Obaid Chinoy is 100% right. The doctor must be exposed.
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KhurrAm Oct 27, 2017 08:59pm
Well.. you do reveal your true self sooner or later. It was a friend request for heaven’s sake. Just ignore it if you consider it inappropriate. Why spoil the poor doctor’s career?
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worthless wealth Oct 27, 2017 10:46pm
The case in hand aside, there is no doubt that, sexual harassment in Pakistan is a matter of great concern; especially in hospitals where a patient have to go through modern diagnostic process in traditional wears or gowns! Or may have to expose body areas for medical examination and or tests! Obviously, the human nature or instinct gets aroused creating an embarrassing situation for the patient and his or her attendant; if any allowed! Therefore, there needs to be a solution for a given case or situation!
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Bobby Khan Oct 27, 2017 10:48pm
Friend request on Facebook is not treated as harassment. If you don't want to be friend just don't accept it. That's all. :)
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SIAK Oct 27, 2017 11:28pm
It's Sharmeen who should be charged with harassing the doctor! She has abused her status and acted very immaturely.
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Maqsood Oct 28, 2017 12:16am
Just wondering, is following her on twitter is also harassment...?
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Zala Oct 28, 2017 12:49am
This is not harassment for sure lady! Trying to stay in limelight.
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Javed qamer USA Oct 28, 2017 12:50am
On the face of it I felt that the doctor was in the wrong. But as I read the full article I realized the doctors only fault was that he asked MS. SHARMEENS SISTER (capital letters) to be a FB friend. Since when asking to be a friend is a crime. What is Pakistan coming to. Ms. sharmeen I had a different impression about you. You have brought pride to Pakistan and now you are throwing your weight around. You should be ashamed of yourself.
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Javed qamer USA Oct 28, 2017 12:53am
I am asked many times by girls/women to be a FB friend. Most of the times I reject it. Is it sexual harassment. What is this world coming to. Wake up Ms. Obaid and be a little bit reasonable. Look at the poor doctor. For heavens sake have you no compassion.
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syed f. hussaini Oct 28, 2017 01:00am
Not very Facebook friendly.
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Alex Oct 28, 2017 01:07am
could be a desperate attempt to seek attention to time it with the Weinstein issue hot in hollywood these days..
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Sami Oct 28, 2017 01:15am
Just reading many of the comments here confirms what I already knew, i.e. many Pakistani men (okay let me add Indians here as well for those of you who are super competitive) have no idea what constitutes sexual harassment. You have been getting away with so much, and for so long, that you have normalized sexual harassment and made it a part of the culture. Now, instead of reflecting on your bad behavior, you want to shoot the messenger?!
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Farouk Oct 28, 2017 01:16am
Am shocked the comments cannot see how wrong the Dr was, the world over, Dr - Patients are separate. The Dr should not be sacked, but suspended and a professional review taken place.
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Khan zada Oct 28, 2017 01:17am
" Wrong woman, wrong family" that's superiority complex
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AbBas KHAN Oct 28, 2017 01:25am
I agree 100% with the following statement from the Dawn staff. A doctor-patient relationship is governed by a set of ethics regarding personal interaction and use of confidential information. If these ethics are breached — by using personal information to locate someone on social media, for example — it is perfectly justifiable for action to be taken irrespective of sympathy-garnering factoids like the concerned doctor was "a father of four".
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IG Oct 28, 2017 01:30am
is she a celebrity ? for what ? for selling our stories to foreigners !! to earn bread and butter !! what has she done for Pak ?? Dr. should not send a Facebook freind request to a Patient but its not a harassment also !!
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jo Oct 28, 2017 01:35am
@khurram, talking about the poor doctor; tears are welling up in my eyes. Where did he get the time to send requests for friendships while working in emergency department. It is unethical to say the least and he crossed his professional boundaries.
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Sami Oct 28, 2017 01:38am
@KhurrAm -- Anytime anyone who has power over you (and your treating doctor certainly has) puts you in a position where you may have to rebuff their move, with risk of adverse consequences to yourself, it certainly is harassment.
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Ali Oct 28, 2017 01:41am
Both male and female act according to their action and better know what their role should be towards each other that's it .
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Sami Oct 28, 2017 01:43am
@CONcerned -- Harassment in Pakistan goes on by the thousands, every day. Women with no voice just suffer silently. They either have to give-in or they are retaliated against if they rebuff such behavior. Kudos to Sharmeen to speak up on behalf of all those who have no voice. Why is it a surprise? Isn't that what she has been doing in all her films, for years?
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Javed qamer USA Oct 28, 2017 01:58am
So what was the crime. He just asked to be friends on FB. So where is the sexual harassment. Ms. Obaid do you realize what it takes to be a doctor. My son is a doctor in the USA. He studied 17 hour days for years. I shudder to think if something like this happened to him. Ms. Obaid show some kindness.
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Such bolta hoon Oct 28, 2017 02:11am
I always thought of her as a fake individual who has a desire to capitalise from the misery of others. Very similar to Asma Jehangir like individuals Facebook friends request is not harassment. For AKUH, they must investigate first . It could be that the individual herself identified/ allowed her to be contacted on Facebook. Facebook request is such a common thing in Europe and liberal countries. Don't know why the poor doc had to loose his job. Ludicrous and sad!
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Mirza Oct 28, 2017 02:30am
Leave it to Pakistani men to muddy the waters. The issue here is not a man sending a friends request to a woman. There are professionals who know all the intimate details of their client including doctors, lawyers, and religious advisors. They are supposed to be trained professionals and keep the confidential info in confidence let alone use them for their friendships. It is this unprofessional behavior the great hospital fired him promptly. Think about a woman patient is treated by a psychiatrist and he starts pursuing her right away? If this doctor would have sent the request to Sharmeen who was not his patient it would have been different and he would not be fired. In most other countries he would also lose his license and not able to practice again. But this is our society and we allow men to prey upon weak and vulnerable.
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LIFE Oct 28, 2017 02:34am
I don't know the other side of the story, however, it wasn't appropriate or as per the code of ethics that you use personal information obtained from a patient and use it for searching and sending friend request. Termination of job may be too much. The doctor could have been reprimanded. Also, I think, apparently, Sharmin has blown it out of proportion.
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AS Oct 28, 2017 02:40am
What that doctor did was wrong in terms of the code of conduct of doctor-patient relationship. Being a doctor myself, we are not supposed to establish private relationship with our patients. However, I do not think that his action amounts to harassment, especially on social media where the recipient could have simply ignored the request.
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Saima Tazeen Oct 28, 2017 02:48am
I think comments on this thread are so shameful. If this doctor was practicing anywhere in the civilized world, he would have been struck off. This is the lowest of the low, that a woman cannot see a doctor without being pursued for forced friendship. What to expect of the rest of this society. And for the commenter lashing out at Shermeen Obaid , I am positively sure that if the victim was their own sister, they'd be jumping up and down to protect her. Have we lost all morals in this society?
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Hakim Oct 28, 2017 02:54am
Sharmeen's reputation is built on focussing on the sufferings of the oppressed in Pakistani society. She has no right to use the influence of her own family to bear down so excessively hard on an individual who may be totally innocent of the implied crime. I do not see anyone asking to be a friend on facebook to be harassing. Just say no. Maybe Ms. Chinoy felt insulted that a lowly hard working wage earning doctor asked her high society sister to be a friend. AKUH is guilty of unfairly dismissing a staff member on an unjust accusation.
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FaisaL Oct 28, 2017 03:10am
The issue is not that the doc sent a facebook friend request. The issue is that this doc used personal information from a patients file, searched her on facebook and tried to contact her. You have to understand this is ethically wrong, a breach of Doc Patient relationship and a breach of Hospital policy. This doc would be fired in any of the top hospital in the world.
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Wilson Oct 28, 2017 03:28am
In a vicerversa situation the outcry would have been that the Izzat of a woman is compromised by removing her from the job and bringing the issue in limelight on social media over a non issue of 'add contact request' on Facebook. We, dear all, live in a hypocritical world.
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Sameer Oct 28, 2017 04:15am
I was harassed 4 times today when 4 women I knew back in college tried to befriend me on fb. Dont they know fb is a pious gathering of Mehrams only,
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Alba Oct 28, 2017 04:25am
The doctor made a harmless mistake. Sharmeen Obaid Chinoy was not the hospital patient. Her sisiter should be able to take care of her own business.
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abdul Oct 28, 2017 05:37am
@IRfan I agree with you 100%
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abdul Oct 28, 2017 05:55am
I have lost respect for her.Asking to be facebook friend is not harassment.
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Irfan up huq Oct 28, 2017 07:28am
@Sami Do you have the legal definition of sexual harassment?
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M.Khan Oct 28, 2017 07:30am
This physician had no business adding a patient to his face book page. His actions were unethical. Ms. Chinoy was rightfully angry about it. AKUH administration did the right thing firing the unethical doctor. His only job was to tend to the patients and not increase his face book friends list. Asking a female patient to be your friend is wrong.
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Irfan up huq Oct 28, 2017 07:32am
@AS Correct
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Citizen Oct 28, 2017 07:37am
this is attempt to remain in media. why personal issues shared through such tweets. if she feels so called harrasment she should send her complainant to Aga Khan hospital management.
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RIAZ ULLAH BAIG Oct 28, 2017 07:44am
Publicity at any cost! She knows how to stay in limelight. Making documentaries on social issues to be famous and making money than addressing the issues but who will notice her if she spends that money in constructing a school in a remote village than attending a grand film fare abroad.
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Shamain Oct 28, 2017 07:56am
I myself am not a fan of shirmeen but on this instance the kind of backlash people and general public has shown simply shows how our female harassment has been normalized into our society that even women are standing up to defend the doctor. There are few things: People who r sympathetic about his kids. Man have some shame , this isnt a sympathizing factor rather shameful that with 4 kids instead of caring abt his wife and kids he is sending requests to a patient how disgusting n pervert like it is. 2. If some doctor had sent such request to these mens sisters or mothers, who have issues with doctor being reported , how they would have reacted.? 3. Major issue is that being a DOCTOR he engaged in unethical behavior of using a patients personal info to form a friendly relationship out of the hospital. This was v stalkerish. 4. In pak doctors harass women a lot and it always gets ignored its high time women shud start identifying their rights and speak up for themselves.
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Shamain Oct 28, 2017 08:01am
5. Many doctors under the pretext of physical examination intentionally touch female patients and unfortunately women cant file the issue as the doctor cud easily claim oh it was general examination procedure. 6. If today he is sending requests to one patient he cud make more advances towards other patients or cud have done in the past. 7. Ppl said shirmeen thinks friend request is harassment, im sure she must be getting many frnd requests that she never spoke about but did on this one cause its clear a DOCTOR is NOT supposed to engaging in such acts. 8. Her tone and flaunting her family background was wrong. 9. This is an opportunity for women to think do they want their rights to he protected to be saved from harassment ? .10. Men who r gettin hyper over this incident shud also start sending their moms n daughters to such doctors who send frnd requests to female patients. Lastly, if with a family and 4 kids u have to lurk after other women u deserve this, n dats cheating ones wife2
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womanizer Oct 28, 2017 08:13am
"messed with the wrong woman in the wrong family". OO Elites of Pakistan, when will you come out of your VIP stature?. A Rule book needs to written by the women mentioning what falls under harassment. How on earth is sending FB request a harassment?
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womanizer Oct 28, 2017 08:19am
May be the guy liked the lady and wanted to initiate the conversation by adding her of FB. The lady can simply deny the request..Where is harassment? "Messed with wrong woman of wrong family" Brilliant Sharmeen
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anum Oct 28, 2017 08:35am
If this was an Uber driver, this wouldn't have been up for debate.
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Asad Oct 28, 2017 09:16am
It is difficult to conclude whether it was or was not harassment without the contextual conversation. However, wherever power and vulnerability are involved, harassment can be construed. Abuse of power, not only against women but in general is a trait of our society unfortunately. Instead of firing the doc, the institution should educate its employees on misuse of authority and position for personal benefit. It is not only harassment but corruption as well.
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asad Oct 28, 2017 09:18am
If Chinoi has morals then she should implement islamic pardah on herself & sister then she got the right to complain.
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Zak Oct 28, 2017 09:31am
Same as our political class also very often plays a victim card voluntarily for their own selfish purposes.Irony is that they are the ones who offend and does harm in reality.
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Zak Oct 28, 2017 09:35am
If this is how she holds her anger over nothing, then it means she has no sympathy for humanity in general and it contradicts with her career.
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Zak Oct 28, 2017 09:36am
@Alex thats what I am thinking she is a best known example of western stooges.
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Asad Oct 28, 2017 09:37am
@Javed qamer USA Your son should have taken a course on ethics and professional behavior being a doctor you are dealing with patients not just anatomy and physiology.
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Asad Oct 28, 2017 09:40am
@Bobby Khan not that simple, taking advantage of a woman in a vulnerable position to get what you want from a position of privilege and power is harassment, it doesn't matter what was asked for, where it was fb friend request or two rupees
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Zak Oct 28, 2017 09:42am
That shows us an Oscar wins couldnt make a person big they still act like a villager.Getting offended by a friend request shows much backwardness apparent in your behaviour.
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Bakhshi Oct 28, 2017 09:46am
Sharmeen is correct. Doctor has no right to take her information and add her as a friend. All those who are taking bad about her are still living in Tala Gang
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Hakim Oct 28, 2017 09:49am
@FaisaL Not true. In any hospital in Canada for example, such accusations would be evaluated by a panel and in my humble opinion, the accused doctor may get a disciplinary warning on first such action. I do not believe any doctor would be dismissed for asking a patient to be a FB Friend. As for me, it is the arrogance of the privileged in Pakistan that is shocking but not surprising. My opinion of Ms. Chinoy has plummeted despite her so so documentaries.
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USMAN SHAHID Oct 28, 2017 09:49am
Soon she's (SOC) going to report people to authorities for "harassment" when somebody mistakenly sends her a friend request on FB. This is one of those moments when you instantaneously lose respect for someone. P.S. Please don't report and accept my apologies in advance, if you've been "harassed" in any humanly possible way, by my comment.
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USMAN SHAHID Oct 28, 2017 09:53am
@Saleem what on earth has it got to do with "male chauvinistic & militaristic thinking"??
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Husnain Oct 28, 2017 09:54am
Dear Writer your para no. 7 shows you are either biased or conservative, in both case your not doing your job well
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SR Oct 28, 2017 10:01am
It must be legally determined whether mere sending friend request is harassment, its upto receiver whether he/she accepts or not. In this scenario 80% of FB user who sends friend requests may think thrice or may quit FB.
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Asma Oct 28, 2017 10:31am
if I had been operated by a doctor who saw me bare sans cloths under his treatment, unethically uses my info to adds me on Facebook with repeated cheesy requests, I will find it harrasement. Sharmeen said she and her family don't come from a place that takes woman harassment lightly or keep quiet. Some people are mixing it up with wealthy class celeb tantrums. Shameful, victim shaming needs to stop.
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Zulfiqar Oct 28, 2017 10:36am
Did he write something objectionable then the punishment is ok but the lady had the right to reject the request and thats all need to think rationally
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Mo Naqvi Oct 28, 2017 10:39am
Sharmeen steals the limelight in prep for her new documentary: how to abuse your power to benefit your own family + guide to winning another award
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kn Oct 28, 2017 10:42am
An old disease name "arrogance" Mankind can not over come!.
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Yasir Oct 28, 2017 10:52am
I am also probably harassing Sharmeen by following her on twitter... In Sharmeen's world that equates to stalking.
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asad rizvi Oct 28, 2017 11:01am
Agha Khan University Hospital has made a blunder and shouldn't have sacked the Doctor for inviting S Chinoy's sister on facebook. It's a very common thing. They will have to reverse their decision, because its the question of AKUH's credibility as she belongs to the Agha Khan community and hence, its seems she has succeed in influencing AKUH to fire the Doctor. While she should be aware that her behavior will not be tolerated by her adopted country Canada. By doing so she has risked her Canadian Passport. Sharmeen Chinoy, throw your ego, its better late than never.
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Maqsood Oct 28, 2017 11:20am
sending friend request is not harassment, but her ill mind.
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Maqsood Oct 28, 2017 11:21am
if it is harassment then million of harassment is doing on the daily basis on the FB.
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Maqsood Oct 28, 2017 11:22am
Make a new story on Pakistan basis to achieve another award.
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Maqsood Oct 28, 2017 11:24am
one who call herself a broad mind, becomes so narrow minded when it comes to her own home.
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Maqsood Oct 28, 2017 11:25am
High lighting herself.
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saqib ghumman Oct 28, 2017 11:33am
How sending a friend request can be a harrasment?? she need to knit a better storey....
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Shahid Oct 28, 2017 12:09pm
Just a publicity stunt by her
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aBDULLAH Oct 28, 2017 12:12pm
utmost reaction should be Doctors shouldnt send friends request to any patient or lets request facebook to add an option to inquire "May I send you Friends request" for Pakistan.
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AFRIDI Oct 28, 2017 12:18pm
A disgraceful show of power, fame and egoism to show that she can destroy a doctor and a father of four, the very tone of her tweets show it all.
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Hammad Oct 28, 2017 12:22pm
It's unfortunate and represents shallow mindset our society operates with. Sharmeen is no exception.
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Murad Oct 28, 2017 12:29pm
I think she over reacted , she should accept it and take her complaint back. we all make mistakes .
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Shahzeb Oct 28, 2017 12:30pm
If sending 'Friend Request' is a harassment, Facebook should be banned worldwide. If you are getting repeated request from Facebook (which i think cannot be the case after 1st rejection), you can simply report that person. These so called Celebrities are good for nothing ..
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Saif Zulfiqar Oct 28, 2017 12:32pm
Looks like personal matter between Sharmeen and the doctor. Can't trust her. She has tried to make herself famous. Cheap publicity.
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Ahsan Oct 28, 2017 12:35pm
While the act was inappropriate its not harassment in any way. Cheap publicity stunt
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AF Oct 28, 2017 12:43pm
Doctor being relieved of his duty is understandable. However, the attitude adopted by Sharmeen is self-evident.
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SamunderKhan Oct 28, 2017 12:45pm
Nothing new these rich elites just want to stay in lime light, they sell other people's misery for awards. Ironic these elite women want to be independent and brave and yet cannot take a joke, critique even a friend request without crying about it.
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zaffar akbar Oct 28, 2017 12:57pm
Well done Sharmeen really proud of u, at last u proved urself to be another attention seeker,status abusing VIP.Well at least all of us know now that you have started working on NEW SCRIPT for your new movie lets see which award you get for it.Really disappointed.
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zaffar akbar Oct 28, 2017 01:06pm
Its nothing else but ARROGANCE.You have been out of limelight for quite a long time so u badly needed something to be in limelight.Sorry it backfired no award this time.Keep trying.
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Dr M A Hussain Oct 28, 2017 01:46pm
The problem with these pseudo-liberals in Pakistan is that they want a free society devoid of traditional boundaries, until the fallout lands in their own quarters.
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Dr. Salaria, Aamir Ahmad Oct 28, 2017 02:05pm
What else could she do?
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Aqdas Oct 28, 2017 02:07pm
Have you heard the word "no". Ungraceful act , just joining the bandwagon on #metoo . The doctor should have been reprimanded and reminded of the correct ethics and action taken if persistent contravention. But in Pakistan there is only death sentence and Suspension for all crimes.Pathetic reaction from so called enlightened ladies instead of following correct procedure the lady chose to air dirty linen in Public.
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Raja shaheryar khan Oct 28, 2017 02:26pm
Although I do not agree with how SOC reacted to the friend request situation ... However Sometimes it just borders harrassment ... I know of a university student who kept getting friend requests from a uni accountant .... she was really pertified ... so in my opinion unless you are a friend in real life never send friend requests to women/girls on FB, it is unethical and ungentlemenly if not harrassment .LinkedIn is a professional connect site you can add professional connections there .
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Raja shaheryar khan Oct 28, 2017 02:31pm
Although I dont agree the way SOC handled or reacted to the request thingy ..but its true that Sometimes it just borders harrassment ... I know of a university student who kept getting friend requests from a uni accountant .... she was really pertified ... so in my opinion unless you are a friend in real life never send friend requests to women/girls on FB . LinkedIn is a professional connect site you can add professional connections there .
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Ali Vazir Oct 28, 2017 03:10pm
To a greater extent one would agree to the writer. The 'pride and honor' of the elite and above the rest is the major player of this incident. Which definitely didn't result in a better end.
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Atif bashir Oct 28, 2017 03:49pm
What the doctor did was unthical and unprofessional. But what Ms chinoy is saying is totally off the mark. Facebook has had it inbuilt, you can add or delete anyone who sends you a friends request. Im sure she gets hundreds of requests every month as well, is that harassment? This is a dangerous precedent.
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LOVE YOUR COUNTRY Oct 28, 2017 03:52pm
Sometimes fame gets to your head.
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Ameer Oct 28, 2017 06:55pm
A new documentary movie name "Harassment" will be on-air soon by Sharmeen obaid chinnoy.
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HonorBright Oct 28, 2017 07:39pm
Breach of the codes of profession: i get this, HARASSMENT? let me cancel the friend request i have sent to Deepika Padukone before i come back to this point..
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HonorBright Oct 28, 2017 07:42pm
OK seriously, I often get friend requests from my students which is always annoying. I mean, can i get them rusticated? I'd love to.
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777 Oct 28, 2017 08:03pm
This lady is a drama queen
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Imdad Ali Oct 28, 2017 09:07pm
Sharmeen Obaid always tries very hard to fascinate the Western audience by showing a false, poor, wretched, downtrodden, unjust, and illiterate image of Pakistan to bag those awards.
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asma siddiqi Oct 28, 2017 10:42pm
A doctor-patient relationship is a professional one. There is no room for Face Book friend requests from male doctors to women patients (especially to women who make emergency visits to hospitals). We can apply that to all professional relationships. If you go to a police station to file an FIR, the police officer cannot send you an FB request the next morning. That would be highly inappropriate and sleazy. The fact that the fired doctor is "competent", "married", or has "four children" has nothing to do with his inappropriate behaviour toward women patients. This kind of behaviour must be stopped and protested against. Moreover, many people are arguing that Sharmeen's sister's harassment is justified because Sharmeen makes poor quality films and that her Oscar is not well earned. There is no connection between Sharmeen's film-making and the fact that a doctor has harassed her sister. Regardless of the quality of her cultural productions, Sharmeen has the right to protest against sexual harassment. Shireen Mazari's regressive comments show that Mazari is a woman who is "anti-woman". She believes in misogynistic values and supports all harassers in order to advance her own career and to support her own friends. Her focus on personal gain in exchange for mud slinging against complainants of sexual harassment is what is truly disgusting. Somehow women's rights groups are silent on this issue which is equally disgusting.
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Dervaish Khan Oct 28, 2017 10:57pm
The doctor may be wrong but the punishment is out of proportion and he will be facing it's consequences for all his life.
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asma siddiqi Oct 28, 2017 11:16pm
@Riz A doctor-patient relationship is a professional one. There is no room for Face Book friend requests from male doctors to women patients. If you go to a police station to file an FIR, the police officer cannot send you an FB request the next morning. That would be highly inappropriate. The fact that the doctor is "competent", "married", or has "four children" has nothing to do with his inappropriate behaviour toward women patients. This kind of behaviour must be stopped and protested against. Shireen Mazari's regressive comments show that Mazari is a woman who is "anti-woman". She believes in misogynistic values and supports all harassers in order to advance her own career and to support her own friends. Her focus on personal gain in exchange for mud slinging against complainants of sexual harassment is what is truly disgusting. Somehow women's rights groups are silent on this issue which is equally disgusting.
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Bz Oct 29, 2017 12:13am
When will women understand that a one-off approach from a man they're not attracted to is not harassment? Harassment is when someone persists in their advances despite being rejected/declined
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Anum Oct 29, 2017 02:46am
@IRfan Soo true. I also have to ignore so many friend requests on daily basis & i just block the unwanted people & thats not a real issue.
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Anonymous Oct 29, 2017 08:32am
Sexual herrasment is an issue throughout the world and it should be addressed in the right manner. Not like this women who is trying to show her power. Her tweets depict arrogance, spite and the feelings of immense power that how dare someone to add her on Facebook. Despite the fact that doctor patient confidentiality is an issue here. But the issue can be addressed in a more healthy way rather then trying to be monarch and telling other people that they have messed with some wrong woman
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riz Oct 29, 2017 10:54am
i totally stand with Sharmeen here, yes no on one have the right to ask any personal info which latter can be used for such bad intention advancements... yes FB request can be the start,, why cant we accept that we all male have boundaries and one must others boundaries as well,, women also have the right to say NO, and by saying NO dosnt mean any bad character..
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kathy Oct 29, 2017 03:47pm
@AbBas KHAN - It constitutes misconduct, unprofessional behaviour but not harassment, not under the law of this land or even western definition of harassment.
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Humanoids Oct 29, 2017 10:32pm
Well done AKUH to fire the Dr.
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Saira Oct 30, 2017 01:59am
It is not a matter of sexual harassment but gross arrogance. This "progressive" film maker should know that there is no place for this out dated class discrimination based on family names in our country of 2017. So move with with the society or move out!
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Saira Oct 30, 2017 01:01pm
@Anonymous Well put!
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Faisal Oct 31, 2017 05:47pm
Men should keep their interaction with strange women to bare minimum, that's the only way men can keep themselves safe. Be polite, professional, courteous but always keep the distance.
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Ikhlaq Nov 01, 2017 01:49pm
Another case fake promotion for Pakistan worthless face ..Cheap Publicized by Sharmeen Obaid
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Haider Nov 02, 2017 01:35pm
Most of the commentators here seem to be mixing up two things. Adding someone randomly on Facebook is different from stealing the information from someones file and then adding them. If I, as a university teacher were to steal the information of a student from her file and make advances at her , would it be ok? Bear in mind that friendship is making an advancement, especially for someone who is married with four children. It is morally and ethically wrong for a doctor to use the information from a patients file for his own gains. And it is equally wrong to portray the doctor as a victim. His job is to treat his patients for which he gets PAID. And Miss. Sharmeen is right in saying that he messed up with the wrong family. Chances are that it was not a first time for this doctor.
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