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If I'd performed publicly earlier no one would've married my daughters: Mai Dhai

If I'd performed publicly earlier no one would've married my daughters: Mai Dhai

An in-depth chat with Mai Dhai, the only major female vocalist to emerge from Tharparkar
Updated 18 Jun, 2017

As we step inside a mud-walled house in a slum in Umerkot, we hear a Thari song being sung especially to welcome guests. Beating the decorated dhol herself while singing was Mai Dhai — a symbol of interfaith harmony — the septuagenarian folk singer of Thar who made waves through her two mesmerising melodies in Coke Studio Season-8 last year.

Born in Barmer district of the Indian state of Rajasthan, Mai Dhai is arguably the best extension of the musical legacy of her mother, Khand Bai, a prominent folksinger of the Indian desert. Khand Bai bequeathed a treasure of Marwari music, comprising rain melodies to songs of separation, and mourning rhymes to wedding songs, which her daughter has dutifully preserved and modernised after migrating to Pakistan.

The beginning of Mai Dhai's story

Like most elderly Thari people, she has no clear idea when her family moved to Pakistan as the displacement which started in 1947 continued till 1965.

“During my childhood, I would accompany my mother to local weddings where she would perform in our Thar, hence all the lyrics and tunes are indelibly stored in my mind,” she said describing how she manages everything when she doesn’t even know how to write her own name. For a simple soul like her it’s just ‘our Thar’ whether on this side or the other side of the border.

Mai Dhai has been promoted by Umerkot’s poet-turned- politician Sardar Shah. Photo: Mai Dhai's Facebook page.
Mai Dhai has been promoted by Umerkot’s poet-turned- politician Sardar Shah. Photo: Mai Dhai's Facebook page.

In fact, it is the weird topography of the desert that has made our eastern border culturally porous and one can still find many similarities on both sides of the border regardless of Partition couldn’t divide. The Muslim singer community Manganhar — to which Mai Dhai belongs — is one such community that is spread in nearly equal proportion on both sides keeping this cultural connection intact through shared heritage.

Barmer Boys, a prominent band of Rajasthani Manganhars, recently released a folk song video in which a lady weeps on a deserted railway station after the train carrying her husband leaves; it goes: Chhooti ray Amrany ree rail, begee waran ree karya (the train to Umerkot has just departed, O’ my beloved! please come back soon). Whereas Umerkot-based Mai Dhai has immortalised all the songs that Thar’s patriotic heroine Marvi sang, while imprisoned by King Umer Soomro in a fort in this historical city.

Trained by her mother, Mai’s singing takes you to the scorching Tharparkar landscape

Manganhars are widely known as repositories of folk music of the desert in both India and Pakistan. Interestingly, the community and its art have survived under very peculiar patronage. Across the border they are divided — and subsequently identified — on the basis of the clans that financially support them. They would go to their weddings or any happy occasion and sing folk songs especially composed for the event.

Their reward would be in two forms: one, cash or an animal; and second, a little quantity of bajra at the time of harvest. Even this meagre support has helped preserve hundreds of traditional folksongs.

Unfortunately, in Pakistan that patronage has almost vanished and members of this community are left with no option but to move to urban areas and take up other jobs to make both ends meet.


Manganhars (folk singers) would be rewarded in two forms: one, cash or an animal; and second, a little quantity of bajra at the time of harvest. Even this meagre support has helped preserve hundreds of traditional folksongs.


But Mai Dhai is lucky: Umerkot’s poet-turned- politician Sardar Shah has been kind enough to promote her art. “There are many such artists — or flowers, metaphorically speaking — like Mai Dhai in Thar. Thankfully, despite having blossomed in the desert, its fragrance has not gone to waste,” Shah says. In fact, it was the late Sindhi poet and TV producer Hassan Dars who heard her sing at the shrine of Shah’s ancestors and brought her to Hyderabad. According to Moharram Faqir, Mai Dhai’s eldest son, it was Dars who had envisioned that one day Mai would perform and rock the show in New York. This long-cherished dream came true when she made it to the City University of New York last March.

“Although Marwari [the language spoken in Thar and Rajasthan] is not understood by many Pakistanis, Mai’s English-speaking American audience deciphered it as the language of love. They equated Mai’s melody and the rhythm of her dhol with American great singers like Tina Turner and Betty Lavette,” says New York-based journalist Hassan Mujtaba.

For a large part of my life I have not seen food in plenty, say Mai Dhai. Photo: Mai Dhai's Facebook page.
For a large part of my life I have not seen food in plenty, say Mai Dhai. Photo: Mai Dhai's Facebook page.

Her eyes were brimming with tears as she described her feelings about becoming a singer of national stature. “The meaning of my name is ‘the one who has eaten food’ but, ironically, for a large part of my life I have not seen food in plenty. We Manganhars are considered ‘uninvited people’ here in Thar but now people first invite me then I go to them. For a Thari, it is a beautiful way to make a living,” she says.

Can Mai Dhai help keep a waning tradition alive?

Sadly, Mai Dhai, 72, is the last woman associated with this genre of music. “There are many girls in our tribe who can sing well but cannot go out and make their art public owing to increasing social pressure,” she says. Although she’s been singing since the last four decades, like Mai Bhagi, the legendary singer of Thar, she too started performing publically quite late.

“Almost every person of my community resisted my public appearance. Had I been performing publicly earlier no one would have married my daughters. And that is also the reason that I sport ghoonghat [hiding the face with a dupatta especially by Hindu women] while performing in Thar,” she added.


“There are many girls in our tribe who can sing well but cannot go out and make their art public owing to increasing social pressure,” says Mai Dhai.


Despite the fact that both belonged to a community known for the performing arts since centuries, their traditions too, like many other segments of the society, fell victim to Ziaul Haq era’s dominant narrative of giving less space to women. It is evident from the fact that after the death of Mai Bhagi almost three decades ago, Mai Dhai is the only female vocalist who has emerged from a largely pluralistic Tharparkar region.

On the return journey the sight of the peeling ramparts of the Umerkot Fort elicited a sombre thought: both the walls of the fort and the songs of the desert are on the verge of fading and, if not preserved, there would be no one to greet anyone in the near future.


The writer tweets @gobind_menghwar. This article was published in Dawn, Sunday Magazine, February 21st, 2016

Comments

zia Feb 23, 2016 11:18am
sad and very sad Pakistan is killing its own heritage and people - they are subject of ignorant rulers who do not understand the language of their own land - when culture dies people die. It like a dying specie which goes only in the library books
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Longhorn Feb 23, 2016 11:25am
The background in the top picture looks extremely familiar. Is this the University of Texas at Austin? I used to park my motorcycle in that exact spot. Even thought captions say New York I'm willing to bet it is UT Austin.
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MBH Feb 23, 2016 11:37am
Mai Dhai has a mesmerizing voice. I listened her song on Coke Studio, although couldn't understand much but she has a great voice that captures you. I hope more Tharis (if they are as good as Mai) then should come out and share their talent and musics with the world.
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Shahid Niaz Feb 23, 2016 11:40am
She is a treasure trove of Thari folk song. Let us recognise her talent and give her due recognition.
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Karachiite Feb 23, 2016 11:51am
we must retake our culture and heritage back from the shackles of zia-era medieval law, and mai dai is a pillar of that movement. kudos to you, ma'am! i hope more such beautiful voices from thar can emerge onto the national music scene. we are always eager to adopt to the western music like rap and rock but easily forget our roots and our own music.
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Zia Feb 23, 2016 12:15pm
Amazing talent
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Gobind Menghwar Feb 23, 2016 12:38pm
Those who can't understand songs sung by Mai, can enjoy this one as it has got English and Urdu translation. http://www.umangpoetry.org/poem/roshi/
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-Arvind Ajimal Feb 23, 2016 01:36pm
Pardon my ignorance, So Mai Dhai isIndian, right ? And Mr shah from Pakistan has helped her in promoting her. If that is so..... Many thanks to mr Shah and to all those who are in some way contributing to preserve old arts.
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N Feb 23, 2016 01:47pm
O ! What a delightfully sweet write up about a great artist. May she be preserved to train young ones. There must be scholarships, residential and salaried to ones who come to her to learn and keep the tradition alive. We are losing many of our cultural heritage. Time now, to get serious about preservation.
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Thoroughthinker Feb 23, 2016 02:07pm
After Reshma, she should have been picked-up by the media and promoted. She is one of the most authentic remnants of our fast dying traditional heritage.
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Kmzafar Feb 23, 2016 02:51pm
Heroic singer,must be congratulated.
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Akhtar Hafeez Feb 23, 2016 03:10pm
A wonderful writ up by Govind, its really a great tribute to a folk singer. No one depicted her in such a beautiful style . Well done dear Govind
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Bob Feb 23, 2016 05:43pm
Donot you give awards to such people like Padmashri, Padmabhushan etc. like in India. They are given to distinguished people from different backgrounds like sports, arts, social service etc. I think she deserves one. And it will be a boost for others to follow.
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Manesh Kumar Feb 23, 2016 06:19pm
Excellent story
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Mastang Feb 23, 2016 06:33pm
Poor people should learn new skills to earn livehod,
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Khalid Ahmed Feb 23, 2016 07:38pm
@Longhorn. This is NY the Honda Odyssey has NJ plates
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Pathan Feb 23, 2016 07:50pm
Once upon a time , I used to work at The City University of New York, 33 West , 42 street, but now it has moved to prestigious 5th Ave. near Empire State building , alas! I missed that opportunity to listen her live at concert. Best wishes to Mai Dhai.
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Hasan Feb 23, 2016 07:54pm
Pakistan should be ashamed of choking its talent
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Ali Zain Feb 23, 2016 09:51pm
I really pray for her, her voice is very powerful and mesmerising. Her song " Aankharli Pharookai " in coke studio is always in my
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Irfan Feb 23, 2016 11:15pm
This selfless, unassuming individual, coming from such a humble and frugal background, deserves a standing ovation from the nation, as well as the world. Pakistan should consider itself lucky to have her as a citizen. Without any doubt, she is worth her weight in gold.
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Rizwan Feb 24, 2016 05:40am
There could be plenty of people around us who has no means to show up their talents. It is up to the cultural group, media and entertainment industry to encourage these talents.
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Pakistani Feb 24, 2016 06:42am
Culture must be preserved.
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Parveen Sadiq Feb 25, 2016 12:22am
I express my deep gratitude to the writer who brought these forgotten stories of Sindh to media. I am sure this land of sofis have an abundant treasure to explore and uncover.I have heard mesmerizing voice of Mai Dai.In Sindhi language,it means a wise woman. Thanks Dawn for bringing such stories to the public.
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Karachiite Feb 25, 2016 03:16am
@Arvind Ajimal - Mai Dai is Pakistani.....
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ruby Feb 25, 2016 09:49am
Ah the beuty of Sindh in all its forms and landscapes!. Wonderful!
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Longhorn Feb 25, 2016 10:54am
@Khalid Ahmed Not a chance bro. I did a street view and confirmed it is university of Texas at Austin. Check it yourself. Do a street view on 24th street and guadalupe austin tx. And look at the South East corner of 24th street. You will see what i am talking about. I wont forget that spot i parked my motorcycle there daily.
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brar Feb 26, 2016 07:34pm
I came across a video of a street singer on fb very sweet voice and was informed that she begs in Sargodha , I request my Pakistani brothers to help her and show her talent to the whole Panjabis as she sings Panjabi songs. she was singing eh athra isaq nahin saun denda sari rat jagai rakhda ee.
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zainab imran Feb 27, 2016 12:56pm
it was a great article promoting the art and culture of thar parkar. salute to Mai Dhai.
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