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My relationship with Amir's family was 'one-way love', says Faryal Makhdoom in first TV interview

My relationship with Amir's family was 'one-way love', says Faryal Makhdoom in first TV interview

Amir Khan entreated his family to end their public feud, but they just won't listen!
16 Dec, 2016

Remember when boxer Amir Khan said the public feud between his wife Faryal Makhdoom and his family needs to stop immediately?

Well, looks like Faryal planned on having the last word. Yesterday, she went live on British TV channel ITV's This Morning show to talk about her tiff with Amir's family.

In response to Amir's parents' claims that their only objection to Faryal is her clothing, she said that she dresses exactly like she did at their first meeting:

"When Amir's family had come to my house, I remember the first time I ever met them, I was wearing sleeveless and I was always very modern in my dressing whereas I'm not really a drinker, smoker, party girl. I respect my religion a lot but in my dress sense I was very open about it and I remember the first day Amir's mom and dad had come with him, they knew the way I dress."

She says she initially enjoyed a good rapport with Amir's family.

"My mom was very open. I am the same person today as I was five years ago when I got engaged and no one addressed that you know 'sorry we can't accept you because of the way you dress' or 'sorry you're too Western or too independent we won't accept you.' Everything was fine, we all really got along, we had such great laughs and you know, they were so happy to welcome me into the family. So that's how it worked out in the beginning."

But soon it all started to unravel, she shared. Six months into the engagement, Faryal remembers first noticing all was not well.

"I remember it was a few months before my wedding. I went to Pakistan to do some shopping and I wanted to surprise Amir. He was in Dubai with his family at the time. So my brother and I, I wanted to go to surprise Amir for Valentine's day and he had told me 'it would be so nice to see you, we haven't seen each other for a while' because he used to be training. I thought it was a surprise. It would be cute. Little did I know it would backfire on me. "

Faryal's visit made the family very upset and she wasn't allowed to see her fiance.

"This was the first time ever where, it was so weird that, I guess I wasn't allowed to see him. In the beginning of my engagement, I was allowed to see him. They were very happy for me to come and visit. Very happy to send Amir. But suddenly after like when it got closer to the wedding, I remember Amir's mom and dad saying 'she's ruined our whole family holiday and we're going to take you back the next day.' Amir had to fly out to the UK the next day, he was not allowed to see me. And that's when I knew that you know what, if I'm not getting accepted being Amir's fiance, I'm not sure how easy it would be to be accepted being his wife."

Faryal also revealed what made her go public with this longstanding family feud.

"It's not in my nature to ever go public about personal matters," claims Faryal. "Over the years, Amir's brother and sister went on Twitter rants, went on Instagram rants, talking about me, saying I don't get along with them, saying I'm very fake, I've done plastic surgery, calling me Michael Jackson, and I was a pregnant woman you know, reading all that was not very nice. Anyway I used to take it in. I was very, very patient about it. I thought my silence would probably make them stop."

But it didn't stop, it just grew and Faryal had had enough.

She says, "Just recently I think it just started to build up, build up, build up, and I had done a catwalk and I was very proud of myself. Amir was very very supportive and proud of me. And I had seen Amir's younger sister had said something like dog walk and made a comment and laughed about it. It really really hurt me. Because when I didn't work and I used to just stay at home I was called a gold-digger. [It was said that] I'm with Amir for his money."

Amir recently broke his silence and said that not only does he not want anything to do with this fight, he also wants it to end immediately.

On being asked why Faryal, despite Amir's statement, chose to come on the show, she replied, "I spoke to Amir about it and Amir has always been very supportive of me. Obviously it's getting too much for him. He has to be neutral, there are his parents on one side and I'm his wife on another side and he's basically in the middle and I did say to Amir that I would like to get my message across and he said that's fine. He said we can put everything behind after this."

She adds, "For Amir's sake, I had always tried to play my part and I felt it was one-way love. I went to Amir's brother's wedding. I wasn't invited but I still went out of respect and I danced with his mom and I can see that smile on Amir's face that we were getting along. We never stopped talking to Amir's family. I want to make that clear. They stopped talking to me and Amir for absolutely no reason. Amir had nothing to do with this."

On being asked if she sees the family getting along in the future, Faryal says, "I would really like for all of us to get along. It wasn't our choice for them to move out. They wanted to move out and Amir supported them in that. It would be nice for them to eventually get on with us. I always tried and I will always keep trying. But I don't know how possible that is, especially being in a marriage for three years and not having great communication."

After her interview, it looks like Amir's family decided it isn't time to bury the hatchet.

Her appearance on This Morning prompted her father-in-law to share with MailOnline that 'She is pushing Amir to the limit with her accusations and I feel very sorry for my son."

He refers to Faryal as an evil wife and says, "It's not fair. While he is out working so hard with his foundation, helping people he doesn't even know but who are so deprived and he just wants to make them happy, look what his wife's doing?"

He adds, "She is trying to come between us, she is trying to break up the very close relationship we have with Amir. She is a very evil woman."

On her going live on This Morning, he says, "She's not picking up the phone, calling us to try and make amends. No, with her big ego she's gone on national TV and [stuttered] through the interview. It's crazy."

And he does not believe what Faryal has to say about Amir's support. "She said it's with her husband's blessing but I don't think so," he said.

Oh well, looks like this isn't the end of this fight after all.

Comments

gs Dec 16, 2016 05:11pm
Faryal badly needs to see Maulana Tariq Jameel. Hope and pray that it works. as it did with others.
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malik Dec 16, 2016 05:38pm
She may look and act normal without all that make up on her face.
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kanwarch Dec 16, 2016 05:47pm
This woman needs hep and is misguided
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Jubeir Dec 16, 2016 05:48pm
I think transforming his parents and the rest of the family is not really an option . They are deeply entangled in socially acceptable norms and have no real thinking power. Best part option is to make Amir pick what does he want for the future. He gets to pick the future of how his family would be and that maybe very different from the past . Time often can not peacefully coexist past ,present and future may all be different
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sadface Dec 16, 2016 05:58pm
Marriage used to be a merging of families bringing peace and harmony to both sides, and providing aid those members who are in need. Nowadays, we have adopted the capitalist ideals where each and everyone of us have to work as an individual and look out for our interests only.
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Hassaan Dec 16, 2016 06:38pm
Parents are at fault because they knew from start how she dresses and how modern she is. If they had a problem, they should've said something in beginning instead of expecting person to change after marriage. And parents should realize their son is an adult and that's between him and his wife how she dresses and nothing to do with them. These days if the parents don't act right kids won't have big issue with moving away and moving on with life so they're just ruining the relation for themselves. I don't think it can ever go back to how it was unless they're very forgiving and loving which they don't seem the type.
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aman Dec 16, 2016 07:02pm
@gs I totally agree with you, but with one correction :) We all need to see Molana Tariq Jameel as we are all in very bad, shape spiritually :)
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Emp Dec 16, 2016 07:16pm
By no means do I intend to rant on about women seeking attention, but in the two minutes I did devote my life to watching her concerns. She has to be one of the most immature and attention seeking women I may have seen on Tele. I feel terrible for Amir, say goodbye to your well fought fortunes, this girls a goner.
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Mike London Dec 16, 2016 07:39pm
This is the problem with immigrants from other cultures, they like the money and comfort, but not the culture and progressive thinking.
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Ali Dec 16, 2016 08:16pm
@Emp Completely agree
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Mohsin Dec 16, 2016 08:53pm
@gs you have lost it.
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N_Saq Dec 16, 2016 09:21pm
I think it is about time for Amir to stand up and put all this family drama to an end. There is no need for parents and wife to get along (if they get along then fine otherwise so be it). In my opinion, Amir should separate his family from his wife and there is no need for them to get along or see each other. Amir should also make it very clear to his family and wife that they should not talk about each other in public or private and that should be the end of it.
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SaLMOSHY Dec 16, 2016 09:21pm
Is it me ? or this girl is too plastic. Anyway, Amir Khan could have done better. Instead, he married a "wanna be" model/celebrity. I have seen her few times before and every time I notice one constant element in her and that she is trying so hard to stay in the NEWS . No mature celebrities make such petty issues public, but those who want attention for whatever reason. Good Luck Mr. Amir Khan. I am sad to say that but your prime days are already behind you.
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T chaudhry Dec 16, 2016 10:19pm
I think it shows the typical hypocrisy of Pakistani society. They themselves live a modren life lnside there homes but preach a conservative agenda on others. Like our preachers give sermons against west and science and enjoy all the technology imported.
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Karim USA Dec 16, 2016 10:26pm
and who cares!!!!!!! taking up too much space in the new.
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Harman Dec 16, 2016 10:35pm
what happened to her, she used to be pretty and now she looks like that cat lady.
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ADD Dec 16, 2016 10:45pm
I have to believe her. Pakistani parents always want to convert their daughter-in-law to everything they believe in. They have to learn to respect some of the values of the person as well even if they don;t agree with it.
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ADD Dec 16, 2016 10:47pm
She is grown woman, don't try to dress her up. She can dress herself. Thanks you.
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ADD Dec 16, 2016 10:49pm
@SaLMOSHY It is you. You have to give her credit to stand up for her right.
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Dr. Salaria, Aamir Ahmad Dec 16, 2016 10:52pm
Real truth can't be hidden for long. Maybe, temporarily it could be snubbed or put on the back burner but in essence, it is so powerful that eventually it will prevail with a big bang.
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Atta Dec 16, 2016 10:57pm
Amir has its own many scandals and she was the family choice and given that her family didn't hide anything, it is Amir family fault.
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Americandesi Dec 16, 2016 10:59pm
This is the story for almost every desi household in America. She said she respect the religion but she needs to learn about the Haya . Only good mother can give you the advise about the Haya. Why she is not taking this matter internally and resolve it behind the door? Angelina Julie and Brad Pitt also has the differences but they don't go out and discuss their issues on media.
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Hoboken Dec 16, 2016 11:44pm
How can people say against this woman, I don't understand. Firstly, they knew how she dresses, how come they expected her to change her dressing after marriage? It was heading for an arranged marriage, they could call it off. Secondly, if Amir's siblings were degrading her on social media, Amir should have stepped in. That was the tipping point. His family started embarrassing her in media first, she had to reply. She has respect in the society. And then it was his dad who gave an interview on Pak TV. She too has every right to go on national TV. And now you call her an evil woman. Pathetic
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Leo BHAI Dec 16, 2016 11:59pm
Well the girl is right. The family should calm down and stop cribbing about the way Faryal is. Let her be herself.
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Z Khan Dec 17, 2016 12:05am
heard her for the first time.
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Muhammad Dec 17, 2016 12:29am
Faryal seems to be very fake.... if she loves her husband she shouldn't disgrace him in public.
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soloman Dec 17, 2016 01:02am
Amir, I am a great fan of yours, what i can say after living more than 10 years in the US, you are in big trouble,you made a wrong decision, God bless you.
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soloman Dec 17, 2016 01:04am
@Emp totally agree with you.
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Sara Dec 17, 2016 01:16am
@kanwarch She is not misguided.
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Sara Dec 17, 2016 01:35am
Faryal is the best representation of a modern muslim woman. There is nothing wrong with her. If you as a muslim are leaving your homeland to come live in western countries should blend with your adopted country. If your homeland country is conservative then why move to western countries and point fingers. If you don't like the western culture and western countries then go back.
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naveed a Dec 17, 2016 01:36am
@SaLMOSHY I will just say if she is doing it with Amir's consent then probably they are done with their marriage ecause few days before amir said it should stop and no public talking on this sibject
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Waqas Ahmed Dec 17, 2016 01:56am
So this all started with Amir's siblings commenting on Social media about Faryal. What childish and immature of her to react like that. She is ruinging her marriage on such trivial things. I mean grow up girl! You're no more a teenager, you're a married women and a mother.
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Sethi Dec 17, 2016 02:05am
@gs LOL
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Malik Dec 17, 2016 02:12am
@gs Lol .... very funny .... hahah
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Uzair Dec 17, 2016 03:45am
Key takeaway from the story: Do not marry someone based on superficial qualities (looks, money, image, fame, obsession with westerners).
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ak4pk Dec 17, 2016 04:51am
Its all childish, silly and stupid and seems to have gone out of hand. There again money could be at the heart of this fasad, who knows!
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raja Dec 17, 2016 05:01am
Why does she look so different in every picture? A lot of woman wear make up, but this one wears masks!
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Asif Dec 17, 2016 05:09am
Micheal Jackson...that is so true. Lols. I didn't thought about that but now I think there is some resemblance . She made my day.lolz
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kit kit Dec 17, 2016 06:34am
@gs does NTJ only see celebs
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cricket lover Dec 17, 2016 07:28am
Old generation does not want to see a new face of a new generation. Perhaps, Amir's parents still want to cuddle their son as a baby and Faryal believes that Amir is no more a child. Both parties are claiming Amir as their property. Mindset has to be changed. I believe that problem started when Amir's sister started using bad words against Faryal on social media. For Amir's family, I would say "To get respect, you need to give respect". I shall support Faryal for being naive in this case. As long as husband and wife are ok with their relationship, things will go in their favour. Parents and family members of Amir have to stay out of it.
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shahram Dec 17, 2016 07:39am
she is so pretty without the Makeup on :/
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Pak-Kiwi Dec 17, 2016 08:14am
I had similar marriage in past from Pakistan, I am still trying to recover from that Gold digger. I feel sorry, most of Indo/Pak girls idealize kim kardashian or cheap gold digger females in west. Unfortunately western world family or in balance law support such cheap women
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nasr Dec 17, 2016 09:11am
A Disturbed Woman. A woman very open mouthed
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nasr Dec 17, 2016 09:12am
Well she is digging gold with all this media hype
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Sabeeh Dec 17, 2016 09:38am
All family member including Amir has seen her before marriage so why so mess now.. she was same lady to which Amir has married. the women is not 5 years old to force her to adopt nice clothings etc.. you can tell her openion and religious responsibitlity but forcing and abusing will make no good.
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Ali Dec 17, 2016 09:39am
@Hassaan have you personally met Amir parents? You are just listening to the girl who is recently added to the family.
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IBN E ASHFAQUE Dec 17, 2016 10:27am
"It's not in my nature to ever go public about personal matters," claims Faryal. That is what you are doing.................Do not destroy your family via cheap popularity..........
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ak Dec 17, 2016 11:30am
The hard earned respect of a hardworking man dragged in the dirt, jabbed, pounded, shredded because an attention seeker had a problem.
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Alina Dec 17, 2016 12:26pm
she is really saying the truth, this is the problem of all pakistani families, they marry their sons but than they don't like the daughter in-law, there are many reasons, if one brother in family is wealthy by his own hard work all the family would want him to spend everything he has on them, his wife is seen as natural enemy. this is family politics in Pakistan, it destroyed many lives. you please backward pakistani's need to stop this, every child has its own fortune and effort towards life, let Aamir and his wife live their own way, if husband don't have any problem with his wife, what problem do you people have??
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Masoud Dec 17, 2016 01:21pm
Money minting strategy, things don't seems so bad for Faryal.
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Canpakman Dec 17, 2016 02:44pm
Husband and wife, have mercy on each other.
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Ayesha Dec 17, 2016 08:46pm
Personnel matters should be solved at home not in public.
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Sukhera Dec 17, 2016 08:59pm
It may be painful to hear what I am going to say. You are an adult and a married woman but your actions are the worst than the little kids. Regardless what the circumstances are , You should never go on a public TV and tell the whole world your personal relationship with your inlaws. How the other people going to help your case? What you need is patience forgiveness and move on with your life.
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Afzal Mir Dec 18, 2016 02:00am
Faryal and Salman's family members need to shut up. They have already ruined Salman's life and a career. I fully sympathise with him.
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Hakim Dec 18, 2016 04:01am
What is the need to come in public when your husband does not want the whole publicity about his family disputes????? What a shame. Amir Khan should concentrate on boxing and should not be dragged down by his wife and family. The wife and the family is too selfish and not thinking about him. Too selfish.
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Vinod Narang Dec 18, 2016 04:37am
I think this was a big mistake by both groups. Unless this was done for free publicity it should have been kept in side four walls. We all have issues but we do not make it for world to see. I have no respect for a man or a woman who cannot keep their fights with in the compounds of their house. This is not a serial or drama this is a real issue and both parties need help.
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Sukhera Dec 18, 2016 08:57am
@Sara .why you have to blend to a western country culture and lose your identity.Canada pays immigrant groups to set up cultural centers and learn their native language. We are Muslims first and British/American second. If you lose your culture, you are neither a british nor a Desi. Your will never look like them regardless what you do. Desi. first
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IMTIAZ ALI KHAN Dec 18, 2016 02:34pm
@T chaudhry Agree. The whole of South Asian mentality. Not just Pak. She should be left alone, why do this her now, when a girl is in the family, if they didn't like her, then why make her your daughter in law in the first place? I heard the mother was saying tell her to wear conservative clothes and that's where the problem started mom said. Really, don't go to UK and impose your culture, stay in Pakistan if you want your girls to wear traditional clothing. We must not have double standards for guys and suppress/be objective to our girls. Pakistan and India and rest of our South Asia is a third world because of our behaviors, stare culture is a example of how we treat our women. Girls also have to stop cat fights and girl on girl hate that is a big problem. I feel bad for Amir, but again his family sister, brother, mom have played a role to fuel the fire. Faryal might not be perfect, but you can't treat a girl coming into a family unfair.
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IMTIAZ ALI KHAN Dec 18, 2016 02:37pm
@Sukhera Then we must not go to Canada please stay in Pakistan. Change a bit to a land which has given you their mother earth as your new home.
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IMTIAZ ALI KHAN Dec 18, 2016 02:38pm
@Sara Nailed it! Thank you.
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Sukhera Dec 19, 2016 09:27am
@Sara . It appears that you don,t know the whole story. Who srarted it and how. I saw some gruesome pictures posted by her on social media which were shocking. No parents or in laws will tolerate these pictures. So it was not the clothes she wore at home but their posting on social media. No decent girl will put on these clothes unless they are on drugs. Believe me I have not seen anyone wearing jeans with 8 to 10 inch holes. One thing is sure that She does not represent modern Muslim woman.
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Tahir Baloch Dec 19, 2016 03:35pm
Why she is getting too personal on TV and showing the world, their personal matters. They should solve at home not on TV.
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Tooba Dec 19, 2016 08:24pm
When Amir married her he knew she was different than the family. Why is family expecting her to change and throwing their traditional and conservatives life style on her? If they were so traditional then bring traditional daughter in law. You can never change a person. That a mistake many people make going in a marriage. You get what you get. People do not change , so marry some one who is aligned with your intellect and values. I think Faryal is little odd by any standard but of course couple deserve respect and privacy. Both sides should not make it a public drama.
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RUCHIMAH Dec 20, 2016 08:28pm
@Waqas Ahmed You give very good insight into your mindset by your comment.
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