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Zarnish Khan defends recent statement about early marriages, says it's 'easier for couples to adjust'

Zarnish Khan defends recent statement about early marriages, says it's 'easier for couples to adjust'

The actor emphasised that it's just her opinion and as long as she's not imposing it on anyone, it's okay.
31 Jan, 2022

Actor Zarnish Khan has been under fire for a recent statement she made claiming that early marriages are better than late marriages. She believes that since she never got to explain where she was coming from or what she meant, it made way for assumptions and misunderstandings. The Susraal Mera actor took to Instagram to post a video clarifying her side of things.

She captioned the video in a way that summarised her explanation, "Having an opinion is okay, however, imposing it on someone is absurd! Learn to be civil if you wanna co-exist in this twisted world. #EarlyMarriages #RecentStatement."

Khan started by saying she wants to "address a very important point", and asked "why do we have this irresistible urge of making people agree with what we think? Changing their narrative, changing their perspective about life, generally about things. Why?" She pointed out that in such a small world exist so many people, so many mindsets and so many theories — "there's no one answer and one solution to any problem any more, especially in the times we live in."

Coming to the point, she said, "So, very recently I made a statement in which I said I believe early marriages are good because it's easy for you to adjust. All the feminists are after me, a lot of people have a lot of things to say about it." She clarified that she never said it's only good for women, but for both partners. "I said that it's good if you get married in an early age because it becomes easier for you to settle in — which is true."

She explained that with age people get set in their ways and don't want to change. "Marriage is all about compromises, not from one side, I don't say only for women but also for men. For that you need acceptability and patience that fades away with time. In that regard I think if it happens early, it's not ridiculous."

After making her statements clear and dusting off the misconceptions, she reiterated that she is not imposing her opinions on anyone and accepts differences in opinion wholeheartedly. "However, I also said everyone has a different mindset and by the end of the day it's a personal choice. Whoever wants to marry whenever is fine, that's it. I'm very civil that way, I feel that if I have a certain opinion about something, it's okay, that's just my opinion, that's just how I feel. Maybe based on my experience, maybe — I don't know there could be so many possible reasons for that, the way I think, right?"

She ended her message with a smile and said this applies to everyone listening, "And same goes for everyone out there who's going to see this message so it's alright. It's okay for me to have an opinion that I believe in, it works for me. I do not ask you to change yours and cheers on that. I hope we all learn a little something here."

Comments

Ahmed Jan 31, 2022 06:13pm
Well said. An early marriage is what Islam teaches aswell. The people opposing it don't know how to live good lives.
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Dr. Salaria, Ahmed Part II Jan 31, 2022 07:27pm
Here we go again
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Nomi Jan 31, 2022 07:33pm
Who is she? Every other person is a philosopher these days and we are obliged to listen to that
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Factsmatter Jan 31, 2022 07:54pm
Nicely explained. Like her perspective.
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Art Jan 31, 2022 08:12pm
That’s all you have , marriages and breeding, who cares about over population!
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Sameer Jan 31, 2022 08:30pm
Glad people like her exist.
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Waqas Jan 31, 2022 08:39pm
Fully agree. It has so many benefits. Its just that we r not groomed to take up responsibilities early on. A man and wife can do wonders by compromising and going hand in hand in a relationship. Early marriages build character, personality and positive experience early on in life.
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Waqas Jan 31, 2022 08:40pm
@Nomi she is entitled to her opinion.
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nk Jan 31, 2022 08:51pm
Do not worry about the feminist in the country. Many are working on someones else agenda. I myself have seen many getting married very early and their lives are full of success.
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nk Jan 31, 2022 08:52pm
@Nomi An intelligent lady. An actress.
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Ibrahim S Jan 31, 2022 09:06pm
Can someone share the actual population of Pakistan. In Western countries, people get married in young age but there is not a disparity between boy and a girl . Both work/educate to support and raise the family on equal terms - can you say the same in Pakistan
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Ibrahim S Jan 31, 2022 09:11pm
No parents want their daughters to get married late . They want to see financial stability and compatibility . Unfortunately most desi men are less qualified than women but as being a man , he wants to marry a most beautiful girl, educated, rich and a subservient house mate to take care of his aging parents while he would take time in watching TV , and discussing politics . THIS is the crux of the whole issue.
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A Khan Jan 31, 2022 09:45pm
On spot Zarnish, early marriage truly helps. I am a 50 year old man and I got married at 23. It was the best decision.
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Tina Jan 31, 2022 10:28pm
@Ahmed If you call slavery from young age as good life then I respect your opinion.
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Jack Jan 31, 2022 11:45pm
@Nomi well you are here aren't you. I suppose she is someone.
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KHAN Jan 31, 2022 11:54pm
DEFINE EARLY.
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Ehtisham Amin Feb 01, 2022 12:52am
@Nomi No you're not and No one said you are obliged.
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Ehtisham Amin Feb 01, 2022 12:56am
@Ibrahim S Says Who? There is a healthy number of households where the man is still the primary breadwinner and many women quit work once they have children. Drop the Liberal CoolAid you've been drinking and go look at some actual statistics.
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SS Feb 01, 2022 01:52am
When what was true for the past thousands of years is all of a sudden controversial.
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Truth be told Feb 01, 2022 08:15am
What she said is right and she didn't need to defend it. If she is up for it, I might consider her for a bit, although my hands are full but to support a good cause I am willing to make some compromises.
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Chacha Feb 01, 2022 08:36am
@KHAN 15 for girl and 18 for Boy
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nk Feb 01, 2022 09:23am
@Ibrahim S I am a Pakistani Muslim whose background or origin is another country. We are a community of around 2k to 3k mostly in Karachi. Incidentally we have good number of males than the females. Females are much educated than the males. Most males start their own businesses and from very humble beginning. Most get married around 25 and a good majority of them have very successful married lives with kids.
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sana Feb 01, 2022 11:59am
@Factsmatter She is clearly venting her frustration on women who delayed marriage to find the right man and have a successful marriage now.
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sana Feb 01, 2022 12:05pm
@nk Any privileged person can be successful regardless of the age they get married.
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sana Feb 01, 2022 12:19pm
Zarnish is contradicting herself by saying that acceptability and patience fades with time which mostly happens when people marry early.
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sana Feb 01, 2022 12:22pm
@nk You should wait until 23/25 even if you want to marry young.
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sana Feb 01, 2022 12:25pm
@SS It is true and acceptable in uncivilized regions even today.
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sana Feb 01, 2022 12:29pm
@Sameer What is so special about her opinion? Although I respect her views she has no right to brainwash people and impose it on them.
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sana Feb 01, 2022 12:31pm
@A Khan You are lucky but it is a nightmare for others.
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Jahanzeb Feb 01, 2022 01:23pm
Where are you getting your facts from? How do you know people get married in the west at an early age? show us your proof. People in the EAST get married early, not the west. I bet you do not even live in the west. zarnish said that 'its true' that couples adjust early. That is FALSE. She is wrong! she has no proof of EVERY MARRIAGE. Every marriage is different. She may express her opinion, however, she should not express it as if it were factual. typical Pakistani mindset.
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