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Responses to Dua Mangi’s abduction are proof that our society loves to victim blame

Responses to Dua Mangi’s abduction are proof that our society loves to victim blame

Why blame five armed kidnappers for abducting a young woman and shooting her friend when you can blame her?
Updated 03 Dec, 2019

A tragic incident took place in Karachi on Saturday night where a young woman was kidnapped while her friend was shot.

Dua Mangi was walking with her friend, Haris Fatah in DHA when four or five armed men in a car intercepted them, fired multiple shots, left the guy wounded and took her away, officials and witnesses said.

Family of the now missing woman put up statuses on social media while the news covered the shocking incident and people starting talking about the matter, but not in the way you'd think.

Disgusting and ridiculous comments poured in, calling out Mangi for being kidnapped because apparently, it was her fault. Her crime? Trying to be herself.

From her dressing to her tweets, people found a way to rid men with weapons of any guilt over kidnapping a young woman and shooting her friend - leaving him to recover in the ICU.

The same folks who go 'not all men' are going beyond complicity in their support of the kidnapping, saying 'yes all women.'

And the same people who say "that's just his social media personality" to defend a person's problematic statements claim she was “asking” to be abducted because of her tweets and views.

The very people who deny the notion that this country isn't safe for women have once again proven this country isn't safe for women.

And of course, because no one really cares about the wellbeing of a young woman, some didn't even miss a chance to mock her appearance and looks in general.

To you all we say:

A young woman's life is at stake, so many others have suffered like this. Can we all please have some basic empathy and stop with the moral policing?

Comments

Clifford David Dec 02, 2019 12:48pm
This is another sad day for our country, a girl has been abducted and her friend shot, instead of people feeling sorry for them, are justifying, is it a crime for a girl or a boy to be out in a public place with the opposite sex. To start with Pakistan government should instruct all public places to install cameras at the places (like in other countries), to enable the police to catch the culprits and also stop crime. Hope she is recovered in good health.
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Malz Dec 02, 2019 01:06pm
These comments reflect the insensitive attitude of Pakistan’s dysfunctional society and It is verrrrryyyyyyyyy disturbing.
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Sameer Dec 02, 2019 01:56pm
Most of the people has to go for Psychological checkup, in such a difficult time the family is going through they are putting salt on their wounds. The criminals should be brought to justice, with the technology it would take minutes to establish the kidnapper, hope there is a resolve to solve the case.
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Wise Owl Dec 02, 2019 02:34pm
Same situation in India. Sad and disheartening.
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Jaan Nishapuri Dec 02, 2019 03:56pm
It is a sick society.
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ukasha rajpoot Dec 02, 2019 04:41pm
Kidnappers kidnapped a girl and shot her friend. Kidnappers bad criminals and girl and friend good people. Now the bad segment of society is with kidnappers and good segment is with the girl. We need to time out and see how we nurtured our generations. If we have failed to inculcate good moral values and empathy its our fault. Need to work really hard to the coming generations to teach them all good stuff. We have badly failed.
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HashBrown® Dec 02, 2019 05:33pm
This is what happens when you starve an entire generation of Pakistanis of any critical thinking, and leave them only with a backwards, misogynistic madrassah mentality. Bring back Pakistan's student unions. Let students interact with each other and discover some sense of humanity again, and perhaps rediscover the basic notion of respect and compassion for society.
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Arshad Dec 02, 2019 07:21pm
I sometime feel ashamed being a man, why these young men are so insensitive. This can also happen with their mum, sister or other love ones. There should be a List of Shame to teach them a lesson. I am sure sick mind individuals can think what she was wearing. Are we saying if anyone wears less conservative dress then deserve to be kidnapped or shot?
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Syed A. Mateen Dec 02, 2019 08:10pm
I am sincerely praying for the recovery of Dua who was abducted by armed men on one early morning. All girls are like my daughters and only a father can feel the pain when his daughter is abducted. People who are writing negative remarks must put their hand on their heart that they also have a mother, sister, daughter and several other girls in their family. How will they feel if one of the girl or women is abucted by armed men like Dua? Where they will be standing then? Will they still write the same remarks as they are writing for Dua? Shameless people with no proper character building. Such people are unfit for the society.
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natalia rehman Dec 02, 2019 10:33pm
i am actually not angry, rather i pity these ppl who aren't even capable of protecting the daughters of their nation. it isn't the dress but the eye of the next one which requires prudency. if a girl with sleeveless top is supposed to be abducted and why were the girls covered completely were raped and killed and if they were raped despite being 'covered', how come we can point fingers at her dress. true, i girl must dress accordingly but this doesn't approve of her being abducted at any cost at all. not just men, this society must alter its point-of-view regarding women's integrity.
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Imran Khan Dec 03, 2019 03:46am
ghatiya society and mind set of Pakistani community
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sailani Dec 03, 2019 04:28am
It is a shame on people who justify that a boy and a girl should not go out in public. This girl is kidnapped and the boy shot and you all blame it on the girl. Folks kidnapping is a crime and shooting a person is also a crime. I hope the police arrest them and put them in jail and throw away the keys.
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Nick, NY Dec 03, 2019 07:51am
When will Wadera rule end?
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Vijay B. Dec 03, 2019 12:44pm
Whether it happens in India, Pakistan, or any place else, it is a shame and disgusting that we have such heartless and cruel people living in our society, and the law is incapable of preventing such incidences or finding the girls like Dua before they are disposed off. And by the way, her sleeveless dress or being out with a guy is of no consequence, we are talking of societal values and lame law enforcement.
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Naeem Azid Dec 04, 2019 12:23am
@Sameer It's general failure of law and order, Men, women, boys and girls are shot, abducted and kidnapped daily in every country. Karachi has hardly any atmosphere of peace for decades. Police is supposed to take proper action for the security of all citizens.
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Ahmad Dec 04, 2019 09:00am
This is what happens when a society separates young children in school on the basis of sex. Instead of teaching them to work and live as a society, they are left to form a world view through movies and magazines. Absolute suppression of human biology only leads to the vulnerable being targeted, especially children.
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