I talk to Iman Ali on the night of her mayoon. She sounds happy and relaxed over the phone, breaking off mid conversation to check the ironing of her clothes. “I am just about to get ready,” she tells me, “and all my friends are going to be coming over. We have a professional choreographer on board and we need to perfect our dances and then, tomorrow, we plan to beat the groom’s side!”
The local wedding season continues to be in full swing and images of the glitziest, most grandiose weddings keep filtering through on social media. And yet, images of the many dholkis preceding Iman’s upcoming nuptials, irrefutably high on glitz, have been few and far between. I have caught glimpses on the Insta-feeds of her many famous, social media savvy friends: a dholki, a dance practice, a dinner at home. Occasionally, casual pictures of her with her groom-to-be Babar Bhatti have also filtered out.
Iman Ali is ringing in this new chapter of her life surrounded by close friends
But, as of yet, there are no picture perfect, tweaked and glossed up images from the celebrations. Iman, simply, believes in ‘keeping it real’. It helps that she looks gorgeous even in the most informal pictures! “I am not social media savvy at all. I rarely post. So whatever you’ve seen of my wedding celebrations has been posted by my friends,” she says.
“Besides, I am not bothered at all about making my wedding trend on social media. We’re having one major function – the shendi – and the guest lists includes all my friends. There aren’t any bloggers being invited expressly to post live from the celebrations.”
“I don’t believe in succumbing to any sort of pressure. I've built my career at my own pace, never paying attention to well-meaning advisors telling me to work more. And now I am getting married when I want to," says Iman Ali
Following the shendi, the newly-weds will be hosting a valima dinner which will again be an intimate affair with close family and friends in attendance. “I like to do things my way,” says Iman. “Tonight at the mayun, I am wearing an old suit. We’ll all basically be hanging out casually in my room and having fun all night. The groom’s side is quite well prepared too and we have so much practicing to do.”
Iman Ali is getting married on her own terms On her wedding day, Iman is going to be wearing a design by Umar Sayeed. “It’s going to be all white. I love the color white,” she reveals. “I am going to tell Shahzad Bhai to keep my makeup light. Nothing too over the top. I want to look natural at my wedding. And I am going to be dancing too!” ‘Shahzad Bhai’, of course, is Shahzad Raza of Ather Shahzad, one of Iman’s closest friends.
“It’s so strange. My mother and my friends used to constantly harangue me to get married and I would always refuse. Finally, when they stopped pestering me, I surprised everyone by announcing that I was tying the knot!”
Another close friend, Mehdi, has designed her outfit for the dinner following the shendi. And QYT, event organizer to Lahore’s most famous, is handling the décor. Knowing his penchant for grand florals, there are bound to be plenty of bouquets in all white, matching with the bride’s clothes. Flowers, though, are the last thing on QYT’s mind on the night that I talk to Iman.
“It’s raining right now and he’s just fretting that it will also rain tomorrow at the shendi,” she laughs. “He’s dabbling with these water proof canopies, worrying that the water will suddenly start trickling down from somewhere! He’s a dear friend and he is so sincere, wanting everything to proceed perfectly. I am relieved that this is his headache.”