Dear Pakistani men, here's how you talk about periods
It's time to talk about this. Recent events have made it clear that men have no idea how to have a normal conversation about menstruation.
Sure, they're okay with hurling the word PMS at women every time a woman acts in a way that's "unacceptable" to them — that is, demonstrating aggression, emotion, logic or any form of an opinion, really — but they're not okay with an open conversation about a little bleeding that basically guarantees the existence of the human race.
When students from Beaconhouse National University (BNU) taped 25 sanitary pads on their university’s wall in order to kickstart a conversation about period-shaming, many men started squirming. One of these men was Shaan Taseer. His critique of the demonstration quickly turned ugly as he tossed insults at Madiha Tahir.
Also read: How Shaan Taseer's reaction to period-shaming exposes male privilege in Pakistan
We wonder: what is it about periods that makes men so uncomfortable, unable to even have a measured conversation? And can we change this?
With that in mind, here's a handy list of do's and don'ts to follow if you're a man who wants to talk about menstruation. It's a guide that demonstrates how NOT to be offensive, discriminatory and just basically the worst. Guys, take note!
DO: Acknowledge your male privilege
What is male privilege? It's basically an imbalance of power wherein some rights or advantages are conferred to men solely on the basis on their gender. To acknowledge male privilege is to first internalize and accept the fact that it exists and then understand that this discrimination is unfair and needs to be dismantled.
Want to follow someone's lead? Check out American president Barack Obama. He talked about periods in a recent interview and openly questioned the luxury goods tax on tampons and pads in 40 states of the US.