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'Why are girls always blamed for divorce?' Pop star Annie hits back at haters
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'Why are girls always blamed for divorce?' Pop star Annie hits back at haters

"I had to speak up not just for myself but for all the girls out there who have been divorced," said the singer
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10 Oct, 2016

Pop star Annie Khalid gave haters on Instagram some well-deserved verbal thrashing for shaming her for her second marriage.

The 'Mahiya' singer had uploaded photos of her wedding with husband Saad Ahmed Khan last week in celebration of their one-year wedding anniversary.

According to the singer's latest post, some of her followers "abused [her] for [her] second marriage" with comments like "how many times you gonna get married", "kitni dafa shadi karo gi", "maneater", "vulgar woman" and "wahiyaat aurat".

So I'm writing this post with tears in my eyes because I am sick and tired of the abuse I get on social media for my second marriage. YES I married AGAIN! Why do people write " how many times you gonna get married" "kitni dafa shadi karo gi" "maneater" "vulgar woman" "wahiyaat aurat" What sin have I committed? Our religion permits us to marry again after being divorced, our beautiful Hazrat Khadijah was married 3 times, her third marriage was to Prophet Muhammad PBUH. Who is better than her? Who is better than Our beloved Prophet Muhammad PBUH? NOBODY. What bullshit Pakistani culture we have where divorcee women are scandalised and stigmatised in our society. They become "black sheep" or "damaged goods". At the time of the Sahaba, men would stand in line to marry divorced women because they knew of the immense reward it was in the eyes of God. But in our day & age we are instead ostracised and looked down upon. You men who comment under my posts have some shame, nobody wants their marriage to break, but if it does then what can you do? Would you be happier to see me alone and unhappy? Would that make you happy? What hurts the most is seeing women say horrible things too. I would expect girls to be more empathetic and understanding but how SAD that you also hurt me with your brutal comments. Remember, this could happen to your mother or your sister, this could even happen to YOU. I am sorry for this long post but I had to speak up not just for myself but for all the girls out there who have been divorced. Can I also add how I always read that it must have been My FAULT, something bad I must have done got me divorced. Why is the girl always blamed, WHY? Thank you to my husband Saad who married me knowing my past and not once brought it up or used it against me. Instead loves me unconditionally for who I am and not what I am. Ok I feel better now. Peace

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Saying that she's speaking up for "all the girls out there who have been divorced," Annie wrote a long post on Instagram that first gave her abusers some religious context:

"Our religion permits us to marry again after being divorced, our beautiful Hazrat Khadijah was married 3 times, her third marriage was to Prophet Muhammad PBUH. Who is better than her? Who is better than Our beloved Prophet Muhammad PBUH? NOBODY."

"At the time of the Sahaba, men would stand in line to marry divorced women because they knew of the immense reward it was in the eyes of God. But in our day & age we are instead ostracised and looked down upon."

She also called out her abusers for lacking in humanity:

"Nobody wants their marriage to break, but if it does then what can you do? Would you be happier to see me alone and unhappy? Would that make you happy? What hurts the most is seeing women say horrible things too. I would expect girls to be more empathetic and understanding but how SAD that you also hurt me with your brutal comments."

Glad you spoke up, Annie!

Comments

Erum Oct 10, 2016 09:32pm
We , as a nation, cant see others happy. Period. Annie, they (including women) want you to spend your life alone in misery, because it makes them feel good that they are not going thru what you are going thru.
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Hamaad Oct 10, 2016 11:25pm
Great response Annie. Wish you a happy married life.
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Ahmad Oct 10, 2016 11:47pm
Bravo Lady, You gave them a Good Shut up Call. They Deserve this.
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Khalid Toronto Oct 11, 2016 02:01am
Well, I hope Saad will not make you sad. All the best.
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saqib mughal Oct 11, 2016 02:26am
Well said to educate the haters.
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Disparate Oct 11, 2016 03:59am
I don't know who she is and I don't think that second marriage tags someone as bad. But reading her arguments reminds me of Samuel Johnson who once said, "Patriotism is the best refuge of the scoundrel."
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imran Oct 11, 2016 04:03am
Ignore them is the simple answer and enjoy your life.
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yawar abdul rehman Oct 11, 2016 09:36am
Glad you spoke up, Annie!
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naveed Alam Khattak Oct 11, 2016 10:53am
this shows our cruel mindset towards divorced women. this is all because we are not aware of our own beautiful religion Islam.
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akber_eh Oct 11, 2016 11:26am
Excellent Mrs. Annie.. You have done great job to open shadowed minds of many..
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Anonymous Oct 11, 2016 11:27am
Why bother about people.... they will all always find everything wrong with everything right .....and everything right with everything wrong...thats why they are called "people" / "Log" . Happy Anniversary
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muzzammil hussain Oct 11, 2016 11:31am
wish you a blissful life ahead Aniee!!
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MA Oct 11, 2016 11:53am
Wish you beautiful life
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Muhammad Ahmed Oct 11, 2016 12:55pm
All twitter or facebook trolls should be ashamed of themselves for slandering people about their personal lives. However, celebrities should also show discretion regarding personal posts or should be thick skinned about negative comments because haters will unfortunately will keep hating.
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Haider Oct 11, 2016 01:38pm
Wish you happy and successful life. And wish to see you singing again. :)
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Asim Oct 11, 2016 01:38pm
Great decision taken by Annie, wish you great and happy life ahead, thats great our religion gives us that right otherwise people would suffer us .
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Amos Oct 11, 2016 01:57pm
The society is finally changing and inexorably moving towards liberalism and individual freedom! Glad you spoke up, divorce though painful should be considered a right of both parties. It just means that two people cannot continue in what is actually a very close and deep relationship. It does not mean that either party is somehow 'bad', it just means that both parties are human! All power to you Annie and best of luck in your life ahead.
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Inspiration Oct 11, 2016 04:02pm
Go girl! Way to defend yourself. Hold your head high -- not all marriages work out and this is alright. I hope you and your family have a great life together this time inshaALLAH (Y)
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N H RANA Oct 11, 2016 09:48pm
Good luck Baita Jee, and wish you all the best in the whole world.
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Jhatial Oct 11, 2016 10:32pm
@Inspiration People will keep singling you out you know why, because they feel unhappy and left out seeing somebody having found happiness! Stay blessed.
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Maan Oct 12, 2016 01:05am
woooo amazing response Annie, wish u a happy life ahead wd Saad.
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Sailani Oct 12, 2016 04:21am
This is Annie's life not yours, let her live her life.
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NowNow Oct 13, 2016 02:24am
Dont worry Annie, be proud and walk tall. You have not done anything wrong. Losers always disturb other successful people. Women are worst. Instead of supporting they pull others down. Your fans, including this one, wish you a very happy, pleasant and loving married life. Have fun!
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ALI (CA) Oct 13, 2016 05:36am
You are absolutely right. Salute
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huma yousaf Oct 13, 2016 10:02am
yes girls are blamed for divorce because apparently they are supposed to be the more patient and compromising creature among the two of them. and when they dont!!! they are to be blamed for not being the epitome of sacrifice and compromise. hats off Annie for speaking your heart out!
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SAB Oct 13, 2016 11:31am
a very good shut up call to a big mass of our society.
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imam ali Oct 13, 2016 01:52pm
Its ur legal and natural right...no one can point out...
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Mariam Oct 13, 2016 04:24pm
besides all this....she is looking very beautiful..just gorgeous MA :)
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uzi Oct 14, 2016 06:36am
@huma yousaf Girls are not supposed to sacrifice their happiness. Marriage should work for both and both have to sacrifice to make it work. Annie is right, our religion does not put undue burden on females. Its the culture that does. Things need to change.
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Zak Oct 15, 2016 12:44am
Annie, you are an awesome singer, you are a pride for Pakistan. Your personal life is yours. The world is made up of all types, the good, the bad, the ugly, the ignorant. Ignore the haters, as they are irrelevant losers. It is because of these bad ones, you come to appreciate the good ones
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